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So tonight my spouse is going out with the couple who ignited her last drinking period, which is lasting into its 7th yr. I refuse to go out with these people even though it is not their fault. I've been unhappy all day but at least I wasn't lied to. I also see progress in myself because i'm not panicked, I've been able to work, and I'm not being self-destructive to myself in any way. I just need you guys to help me keep my anger in check. I don't know anymore if I want to stay in this marriage or not. I'm taking steps so that if I want to leave in the future, I will be able to. Lyne
I hated my husbands friends too. Especially the one he got a DUI with. I know he didn't force him to drive, but he was and is a bad influence so I don't encourage a friendship there. I left with nothing and lost everything which fuels more anger on my part. I would definately take steps to be able to leave if you choose. I know I felt sneaky when I tried do that and like I wasn't participating in the marriage if I was secretly planning to leave it, but it would have been much easier to have had a plan. Learned the hard way.
Good luck. I hate how they make you feel like your the straight one, uptight and don't know how to have a good time. So Selfish they are.
I planned for nine months. Set up my own account, set up a pre approved rental agreement, made arrangements with friends and family for a place for me and kids to stay on a moments notice, and had a weeks clothes packed and stored at my work. That is what gave me the courage to confront her face to face. No threats, no ultimatums, no demands we are leaving you!
For us, we have hope because she checked into a recovery center four days later. I wish you the best.
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IF YOU ALWAYS DO WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS DONE, YOU WILL ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS GOT
