The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Just for today I am keeping my hands off what is not mine. Other peoples problems, issues, beliefs, ideas, fears, challenges, behaviours, attitudes and choices are theirs and their responsibility. I am gonna live and let live. The last bit is the most important part....LIVE. I can get so focused on the let live part that I forget that slogan gives me permission to be alive and make choices in my own right. So hands off of them and don't let them keep me from my own life. Thanks for listening. Lol. Tigger x
I've also been hands-off for the past few days and it has brought me a tremendous amt of peace - so much so, that I think it might be come addictive...hehe.
Some days I feel like I cannot stand to hear 1 more person's problems.... Then in actuality, I go looking for people to help with their problems. For me, it's an issue of boundaries and I need constant reminders as to what is inside my hoolah hoop (program talk there) and what's not.
Also, helping other's and "carrying the message" of either alanon or AA is the 12th step - I guess it's also hard for us to know sometimes what is the good form of helping and what is not.
That was my personal take on your share. For you Tigger, sounds like a good way to hone in on self-care and that will only result in your own growth.
-- Edited by pinkchip on Monday 25th of June 2012 08:38:16 AM
There are no coincidences! My mom was very irritable this morning and not so friendly. I was telling myself it was just her stuff so I didn't engage. Instead I sent her a text after she left for work telling her that I love her and I hope her day gets better. I was just reading Tigger's share and thinking about how I let my mom just live. I didn't try to fix her mood as I typically would have, I just let her know I loved her and let it go. I didn't take ownership of her mood or let her blame it on me as typically happens. Just as I was about to write this share, my mom called and said that she is really tired, but would like to meet at 5 for dinner. She was sweet and kind--a totally different mood from earlier. I'm glad I didn't waste my morning obsessing and let my worry impact my daughter who is home sick today. If I would have engaged with my mom this morning we could have easily been in fight right now. I can't believe all this is happening. Life feels like it is opening up to me the more I allow myself to accept it.
Chaya
