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You just start thinking and thinking about something over and over and over again, its maddening! So hard to shut your brain off. ! I hate it! If I was a saint I could just give it to my higher power and that would be the end of it. But it is easier said than done.
Oldergal
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
I know how that feels so well. Ive spent the last 4 hrs obsessing about how I declined going to a bar for a bachelorette party tonight. I just did not want to be around that much alcohol. I know...I think haha...that I made the right choice. My friends were actually really supportive. I felt serene for a bit, and then wondered all night if I was just being irrational, and did I handle it properly, etc... Blehhh. Breath in breath out. Right or wrong, its done right? Right. *hugs and understanding*
When I get busy I get better, .. it takes away the power of the obsessing thoughts at least for a while and I wind up with a cleaner house than I started with. :) Hugs, P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Yep those rolling thoughts ... it's like listening to a vinyl record skip. I have a couple family members who are obsessive about cleaning ... which I find pointless with my household. So I clean and transfer the energy there and then I am reminded that my thoughts are sometimes as productive as washing the floor during a storm and muddy paws will instantly make it dirty again. Ha, in my little world being a saint would mean having clean floors and clear thoughts
Typically, I have such a problem with obsessing that I have to "DO something" to hit the interrupt button. I go to the gym, go for a walk, play with the pets. I cannot be stagnant or my mind goes back to it. My gut reaction is to "talk it out" but I have come to realize that talking about it sometimes is just continuing to obsess because I don't let it go after blabbing on and on about it. Sometimes talking about it does help but it's taken quite some time to know the difference between when that will help and when that's just continuing to stew over something. I'm still working on it.
For me it's shame based. I tend to obsess about how I did or did not do something, how I should have done it better/differently and I run it over and over and over again trying to analyze it, re-work it, find a way to fix it, etc.
I'm learning to speak to that voice, thank it for it's helpful information and then tell it that I feel I did just fine given the situation and I'll take the advice into consideration for the next time. Its weird to do but it works for me.
