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My brother and sister are both alcoholics ...


I can't believe I'm going around the mulberry bush again...  My brother was an alcoholic, and died an alcoholic in November/2010.  My family did everything we could to 'try to save him' but he really never wanted to stop drinking and deluded himself into believing he was a 'problem drinker' but not an alcoholic.

 

A year after my brother's death my sister asked to be taken to detox....  She told us she was an alcoholic and wanted to quit before she ended down the same road as my brother.  She went into a month long treatment program and is struggling to remain sober right now.  She is a single mom with 2 little girls and I'm terrified that she will or has already relapsed ...   I'm not sure I can endure the pain of it - but I know my pain doesn't even begin to compare to hers.

 

I just wanted to vent and share with people who might understand what I'm going through.  Any advice is appreciated.



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I always forgot that the people I loved had a Higher Power too and would take them where they needed to go .  Worrying about something that may happen is a waste of time and keeps you sick . The what if's , if onley 's rob me of serenity and someone elses choices are things I have no control over . I am sorry about the loss of your brother due to this disease hopfully your fears will not be realized again .  If your not already please find meetings for yourself you need support . Louise



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Thanks, Louise - you're right.  I need to find a meeting close to me and go ...  Thanks for the advice and for a push in the right direction.



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I second find meetings near you and keep coming back! Sending you love and support!

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Aloha Anne..." I'm not sure I can endure the pain of it - but I know my pain doesn't even begin to compare to hers."   For me...that statement could only come from a person with heart and compassion, awareness and love.  You are a member of the Al-Anon Family Groups already...qualified and with a seat waiting for you already.  Let us know when you get to that meeting.  We will be in support...it is how we survive and recover.  (((((hugs))))) smile



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Breakingfree and Jerry - thank you for the warm welcome ... I never realized that I needed to go through recovery as well but the more I read here the more I understand how necessary it is. Thank you for your support - you will definitely be 'seeing me around'.

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I have a father, brother, sister and nephew all addicts of one sort or another.

It certainly is a family disease

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