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Debilyn


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I picked a homeless guy D.R. here in this tiny town, to hmmm support. He is a vet. I have talked and listened to him for months now. Gave him two feather comforters, wool gloves, food for his dog etc. He never asks for money, never. But I give him some.

Have never, ever seen him drunk. He is younger than me yet looks eighty. tall long hair, long beard. Pushes a cart around. Is friendly to everyone, respectful. He was living in a train car, but it went away somehow. Now has a crappy tiny trailor. He basically is a watchperson for a small wood mill. So they let him stay.

His wife died when they moved up here. Now he is alone, and working at getting some help with a home soon. So he says.

Ok now the sad part. Mind you I saw him almost every time I came to town. Was awhile I had seen him. I asked around and heard yes he was around. Then I saw him talking to this other homeless guy, kid. The kid was sober last time I saw him, Mother died, stepfather lost house after he kicked him out.

Both were plowed out of their minds. DR had called the ambulance as the other guy was having seizures. I actually saw him have them. He checked out as far as vitals and said no to going to hospital. Would not leave his dogs....

DR is yelling hi at people,but also is yelling at this teen girl who is fighting with her mother to shut up. He told me about the meth heads up here. Asked me if I had any metal up here. Told him about my panels, he said yep that is what it making them try to get in.

Btw we were in front of an mt building, by a busy grocery store.

I looked at them both, how horrible this disease is. So incoherant, so dirty, so sad. But DR does take good care of his puppy. Valerie. She is in the cart asleep on a pillow, has her toys. brown lab.

DR tells me about jail and how he waited when his wife was in jail. Said he was there nine times. I had been watching a lot of reality jail stuff. I started seeing him in a different light. Not sure what it was. Maybe seeing for the first time how very, very sick he is. How he probably does not really feel anything.

I say gotta go DR, glad you are not dead or in jail... I drive off, he is pushing his cart on the sidewalk of a busy street, I sorta look over and he is walking and peeing right there. Just made me so very sick.

I know he did not realize or care about anything or anyone.

I have seen both sides now. Even now my stomach feels sorta sick and tears are in my eyes.

Will I want to help him anymore? I know I would get dog food, and a warm coat for Valerie.

Thinking when it gets cold again, I can see getting him more wool gloves.

Was just a strange feeling. Thank you for reading. my love,debilyn



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Your a very kind heart Debilyn, you cannot help but care and love, thankgod for peeps like you that never give up, yes it is sad soooooooooooo so sad, looking from all sides of this, they will either get it or they won't, their choice, we cannot be their reason too, but? we may help along the way, you have, you do, thankyou for Debilyn. x Katy x

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Big hugs Deb

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We used to bring food and clothing to the homeless on a regular basis but it's just so hard. Some of them are wonderful and others make you wonder what they're going to do with what you gave them. Sell it for more drugs or give it to their homeless wives and children? I understand, Deb. It's not easy but you helped him even when he was down and out and your kindness was from your heart and made you feel good, that's all that matters.

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Sending you love and support my friend!

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thank you to you all.

 



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