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Ah's father passed away today at the wonderful old age of 89. Some of you may remember that my father passed away about 4.5 months ago, at the age of 62. We may all be going across the country for the funeral. I'm not sure how my son will handle this as his anxiety and stress levels really went through the roof with my dad's death, viewings, and funeral. And, AH's family is a bunch of crazy people that like to manipulate, push your buttons, etc. Ah isn't speaking to his brother, he barely talks to his sister, and his sister is barely speaking to his mother(or maybe it's the other way around?). Anyway, this may be quite stressful. I'm still debating on whether I should take our son and go at all. I want to be supportive, I really benefitted from having AH at my dad's funeral and stuff but I am already feeling sad about my own father's death and everything we went through before he died. I'm not even sure that I can handle it, LOL! Prayers for guidance would be much appreciated.
That's tough...my condolences and prayers for your son to find a way to honor his late grandfather, without the added drama of a toxic extended family. Take care of yourself.
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Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us. -from Pema Chödron's When Things Fall Apart
Prayers and condolences to you guys. Sending love and support.
Hugs P
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
So Very Sorry for your Loss... I lost My Afather to this Disease at the Very Young Age of 58... So I Understand your Feelings of "Is this Too Soon"... Know that you are THought of & Prayers are Lifting you up so that regardless of what you decide to do, Know that All of us, & HP are Carring you through...
i didn't go to my mother's funeral. That was a very very good decision for me. My sister is a bully, my younger sister lives in denial. The other relatives are all in denial, alcoholic too. I had too much on my plate.
I had to weigh my needs and for once I put myself first.
