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Here I'm again feeling like I'm going under, Just earlier this week I was feeling good about saing "no" to my daughter. Well this 45 y.o. women has me feeling guilty and sad. She called this morning asking if I could bring her some food to last until the 1st. she is hungry. I told her they were giving away food today at my church, she said her car broke down on the freeway, so she can't get there. I told her I was on my way to a skin care party and was leaving in a few minutes and would get back with her later. I spoke to my sponsor and she reminded me I had told her in the past that I couldn't help her anymore until she get help for herself, she reminded me that I had saved her from hitting bottom the last time I helped her and we are full circle again with no changes being made. When is she going to get tired of this life style?
I prayed and asked for my H.P. (God) for help I can only refuse to help her by the power of His mite. I just want to do God's will, I remember someone on this board said "if nothing changes, nothing change" Right now I'm just going to wait and see how this plays itself out.
All is well! Highlyfavored!!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
Hugs HF .. all I can say is HP will truly find a way. She won't go hungry, .. she will find her way and if she does maybe it's what she needs to get to where the only door open is recovery. I can't imagine how hard this is for you. I am sending lots of positive vibes and prayers you and your daughters way. I can only empathize this is as hard as it gets for a parent.
Hugs P :)
PS - If nothing changes .. nothing changes ..
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Yes at first everything new is hard to do. It was very hard for me also and then the memory of the consequences of my enabling was so fresh in my mind that I because too fearful of continuing to do it. Working the "new" program made me feel like an alien and then the support group I had and my sponsor told me that it was normal to feel that way when I was doing things I had not done before while watching to see how the new stuff came out. It all proved that this program works when you work it. Keep coming back...In support (((((hugs)))))
I'm ashamed to admit I couldn't stand the pressure, my17 y.o. grandson called saying they didn't have any food in the house, no toilet paper etc. he asked if I would bring him something to eat. I put a few items in a bag and took them over. When he called I ask to speak to his mother, I was telling her that I was was doing this mostly for my grandson and until she get help for herself not to call me for help anymore, I heard something that sounded like humming, I asked her if that was her, she said yes, she was listening but she didn't want me to ruin her spirit. Of course that upset me, I said OK and d/ced call. When I got to her apt. and her son took the food in, I told him to have her come to the door I waned to talk to her, he said she said no. I somehow feel very foolish and disrespected. I don't really care about that, I know I'll get over it. What I really want is to know God's will in dealing with her and the strength and courage to do it. Thank you all for being here and for your support.
Highlyfavored!!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
HF...one (only one) of the best notices about God's will for me came from Mother Teresea book on "Love Anyway". When your gut says love...love and don't question it. You can love and say no and you can love and say yes...both are okay and shame and guilt and resentments are other feelings you can leave for later. You can give the food or you can give the phone number to the "food pantry" both with love anyway.
You're a loving person; a loving mother who has food to give for the moment...give it with love cause that is doing the will of HP. We don't do perfection in recovery...just progress.
