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tiredtonite


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Nice example of the program in action wolfie. I see your finger pointed inward in your picture wink Thanks for sharing some great reminders about keeping an open mind and zipping the lip. I could've used this post this morning when we gathered to learn how to use the new copier. (yawn) I felt the need to inject a little humor when the gal announced over the loudspeaker those of us who were scheduled to be trained and should come to the assigned copier. She somehow recorded it, it was delayed then it began to announce the message as she stood next to us at the copier. I told her I didn't know she could throw her voice like that.  It got a lot of laughs and fortunately for me she has a sense of humor but the truth is I felt bored and restless and wanted to liven things up. I pretty much shut down during the instruction and thought about things.  Naturally, I still don't know how to work the copier. It's an enormous beast that can do just about everything except make coffee. To my good fortune, the gal who did the instructing was considerate enough to make us an instruction manual and place it by copier for easy referral.  So... I really could have used this lesson in respecting others, appreciating what they do, keeping an open mind and listening and learning today.  Thanks so much for sharing.  TT



-- Edited by tiredtonite on Thursday 26th of April 2012 10:31:57 PM

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I re-learned an old trick today. I'm attending a 2-day workshop on suicide intervention, required training for my job. I went into it with the wrong attitude. I worked till midnight last night. I didn't get a lot of sleep. I overslept, missed breakfast. I thought it was going to be boring. I mean how long does it take to figure out how to dial 911????

Then I checked myself. It wasn't the workshop that was boring, it was me. Me? Boring?? I know that's hard to picture, but there ya have it. Instead of looking for what I could get out of it I tried to see what I could bring to it. 

suddenly I realized that I was being negative and looking for all the things that were wrong with it instead of looking at it as a learning experience. So I grabbed a couple cups of black coffee, smiled and tried to make the most of it. Like when I'm in a meeting that I don't want to be in. I try to turn it around.

There were a lot of people there from different backgrounds. I made a few friends and I made some excellent contacts. I actually enjoyed the rest of today and I'm looking forward to tomorrow. Most importantly, I learned that I choose the kind of day I can have.



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Debilyn


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Really liked this, thank you for sharing. (c: It's so very true, we can choose how we look at things, and also how we are going to feel about something.

The guy at the dump was so grouchy looking as he handed me my number. I said wow where is your smile today? He said he was tired and had so much to do. I said,"Yea it wears on you huh?" When I went back to weigh out, gave him the fee, plus five bucks more." Said bye, hope ya feel better, he yelled,"Wait! you need your change, I said."no that is for you, you need a treat." off I went.

I could have felt bad like oh sorreeeee to ruin your day by bringing my beautifully bagged junk in contractor bags....I am not kidding I have to have nice garbage too....anyway I chose to go outside myself, think of how he felt, how I could choose to make him feel better.

Al Anon taught me this tool. What you described is so so true. We really can choose how we react to things. Though my way does not take caffeine haha.

I know for me, sometimes life chooses me too. Can be sorta muddling thru and then my hundred pound puppy decides to dig pits in the driveway while the other puppy is dragging my dirty cloths I had in nice piles to be washed, out to the yard.

I clean that up and they both decide to murder EeeOr so his white stuffing is all over the place.

There is this thing in me about loving puppies, they have this abandone of all bs and just play, everything is a toy. As i clean it up it makes me laugh, and smile and say,puppies.....

thank you for sharing,  hugs,debilyn



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Jackie11


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Such a fantastic example of it works when we work it!!!



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AStrongerMe


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Excellent! That's very perceptive, I've done the same in work meetings. I always need to re-evaluate where I'm "seeing" things from. Just like there are rose colored glasses, I often seem to have grey smokey glasses.

Great share, thank you!

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