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Another co worker of mine at the store is pregnant. She is a young, unwed mother and does not have many resources. Needless to say the store manager isn't giving her more hours to help her out financially.
Normally I would be adopting someone like this as my pet project. I would be worrying about what she was going to do. Needless to say there are many issues about getting medical coverage (the store offers really awful policies unless you are full time) and more.
This time for the first time (and I think I can only do this because I hardly know this woman) . I pointed her to some resources where she can get baby stuff. I told her not to rely on anyone (big lesson that was for me) and I let go of what I can do. Obviously I am in no position to offer much beyond an ear and an acknowledgement that the store management prefers only certain people and no one else.
Who would have thought I would ever be a model of self reliance and not relying on anyone else? I have limits and I can live within them.
Well I didn't actually say that because I don't think she wants to hear it but I encouraged her to look for ways to meet her needs other than relying on other people. She was hoping she would get everything she needs for the baby from baby showers. I have not heard of that happening. Maybe it does but I would imagine you need a lot of stuff as a new mother and geting it has to be a priority for a while.
