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I feel awful. Just a few days ago I posted about my 25 yr old son, saying that I thought he was still drinking, but not sure. I was feeling very confused. Well, I had a chat with him. Stopped trying to control his life and his using. Told him that the only house rule was no drinking or getting high. He cried, he agreed...
Next day.....he came home 2:30am and cooked. Left an awful mess and the fridge door open. Talked to him about it today and he said we were direspectful because we were in his face when we woke him up at 8am to clean it up!! Admitted that he had been drunk. So....I said I thoughthe should move out to a half way house (he is on parole). No anger....just tears. Told him to take a few days and work on finding somewhere.
He looked shocked, in disbelief. I am sooo tired of this. i feel so sad that the day has come that I have to tell my son to leave, but he continues to drink (behind my back). I can not support his behavior any more. Anyone else been through this and can help?????
Brit! Hi! I know it hurts, but it has to be done, the sooner the better. I'm 70+ and still dealing with my 2 a/a's children and a grandson, doing (setting boundaries) what should have been done 25+yrs ago, I can "shoulda" myself (smile). I was a slow learner, and had a hard time letting go of the fear. I thank my HP (God) it's never to late to learn and get it right. I still have a lot to learn, I'm grateful to al-anon and my HP (God). It sound like you are doing a great job!
Highlyfavored!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
that is so hard to deal with. I have been around the block on that one a lot.
Setting limits and enforcing them is not easy around an alcoholic. Expecting it to be seamless is not realistic. I pray that this boundary may set him on a better course.
Yo did the right thing. Putting out a loved one is tough and gut wrenching. I struggled with it but when I got sick and tired of being sick and tired I found the strength to take the action of putting out my daughter.
If I don;t take cre of myself I am of no good to anyone especially me.
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