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debbiems


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My AS 22 yrs old drove the pickup down our mile and a half dirt road, it has snowed and the road is horrible, needless to say he wrecked it. My husband came unglued. I have never seen him so angry and our AS has done alot of things but i guess this was the topping on the cake.  He told our son that he has 3 weeks to get another place. I am fighting with myself because at this moment I am so angry at both of them. My son was sober but had not asked permission to drive the truck so i am upset with him. I am angry at my husband for loosing it and calling him names and telling him to get out without talking to me about it. Then I am thinking to myself my AS has now where to go he didnt grow up here and doesnt really have any friends he has been looking for work since he has been out of treatment.I know at 22 yrs old this shouldn't be my problem I know I know but he is also my son.

Just so angry at both and waiting for things to settle down  so I can think clearly!



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Too hard


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This is really upsetting for you, I would be truly upset.

You say   "our AS has done a lot of things but i guess this was the topping on the cake"

Was your son aware of the 'boundries' in your home?

If so he would have understood that there would be consequences?

Sometimes a parent has to say "enough'.

I'm not clear if your husband is also a Alcoholic or just your son.

If you both are able to calm down over the next few and have some space there may be an opportunity to come to a compromise.

Good Luck.    T.H

 



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pinkchip


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You can't fix everything and getting folks to "calm down" doesn't fix the problem either. Let your HP handle this one.

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orchidlover


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The ex A who I was with totalled a couple of cars. I was very very angry too.  The issue is that even my anger and hurt didn't affect him in his disease.

Sometimes I am not sure what disrupts it.  I do know that some people do get into recovery.

I know in al anon we learn ways to deal with alcoholics. Why not give it a shot?

maresie.



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