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I have been with my partner 7 years . I have been in al anon 4 and a half years and he is in AA 3 years. I am not happy in this relationship whether he is drinking or not. I ended it about a months ago and he has gone bak to drinking and is blaming me. I know the 3 Cs I know it was his choice to pick up and it is his disease that is blaming me. I am focusing on my programme hard. I am trying to heal to move on but there i the odd loose end as always. He has some ladders that belong to my brothers in laws that he took. I spoke last night and he said I could get them today my brother really needs them. Off course he is active so he never kept to his word and has disappeared. I am powerless. So I apologised to my brother and all I can do is chase him for them. I just want to move on will I ever be free. He sent texted over the weekend he thought I was with someone else because I was on a course. He came to my house while I wasnt here I could go on and on . I am trying to be kind. to detach with love .
I am just trying to work my programme and hand him over to hp I give up I have my own problems I was addicted to fixing I just want to live my life for the first time in my life. Its hard but with the support of the fellowship I know I can do it he is not my responsibility.
Letting go and letting God sometimes it's all we have got. It's to bad you need to be the go between with your brother and your ex. Maybe it would be helpful if you just removed yourself from the situation and let your brother take care of the situation.
I find that when I'm no longer the "issue" and people deal directly with each other it sure makes my life soooo much less stressful. Just a suggestion and what has worked for me in the past. Sorry you are going through this it is never easy.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
It sounds like you are managing the things you can. I like what Pushka said about letting the other 2 parties figure it out. Sending you love and support
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