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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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It's not easy turning an alcoholic over to his/her Higher Power. But, there comes a point where it is the only option left. I had to try all the other options first. It's who I am and what I do. After trying everything, I finally know no human power can release my AH from his addiction.
It's painful because I see a good person who has drowned in his alcoholism. He is in there. I get glimpses of him. But, I can't save him. The alcohol is stronger than me, than my AH.
Hey, HP, take care of my AH. He's really a very special person, but you already know that.
When hotrod prayed for you and your hubby to be in the Palm of God's hand, I thought of this old children's song: "He's got the whole world in his hands. He's got the little bitty baby in his hands, he's got the whole world in his hands. His got everybody here in his hands!" .... as this song says, He's got you and your A in his hands, Very Very Tired! I'll join in prayer with you and hotrod for your situation.
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I can Overcome all things through my HP who strengthens me.
Hugs sending love, support, and added prayers. Many hugs!!
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Letting that person go is what you need to do to let your own recovery begin. As co-alcoholics we are just as sick as the alcoholic and need healing too. I hope you are attending face to face meetings, reading literature and getting yourself healthy.
Go through your literature and read about detachment. We still love and care for the person and we detach with love.
-- Edited by whitedove on Saturday 3rd of March 2012 03:22:43 PM
I feel the same way and often pray for HP to be with my AH when I know that I can't make a difference. The only thing I can do is pray. Sending support and prayers your way!
It's sad. Especially when you know alcohol doesn't just hit a person full force right away. It sneaks in there and it's fun at first (like a new best friend) and slowly it creeps up and becomes that person's worst enemy while still telling them it's their best friend.
I know how hard it is to let go, I'm like you I have to do it for my own sake, I'm working on my personal relationship with my HP (God) Father let your grace and mercy abound to all in need right now. ...Beloved
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
i so feel for you,i was in your shoes a year ago.and its not easy.if anything it may be one of the hardest things you will ever have to do.step 1. say it over and over again.and your hp is listening and he will anwser you in his time not yours.be patient. my ah is going to be one year sober in april and i thank my hp everyday because now he is living not just alive, which i doubt he would be if he had not got sober.my husband is a wonderful man with a horrible disease,something that he will have for the rest of his life and with his hp by his side it will be a good long life.hugs to u.now that u are ready to stop trying to fix him,how about working on fixing u.its amazing how much time we waste trying to fix something that was not ours to fix and when we stop there is just so much more time to just enjoy today.
