The material presented
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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My husband and I had an argument. No one flipped out or got over dramatic. He heard me out. I heard him out. Then he did the dishes and I vacuumed the living room. He said he used to have to be right but with the help from AA he does not have to anymore. I was wondering if I am an alcoholic because I started thinking about how when I would be drinking I was alot more fun. Drinking was never a problem for me though. I stopped drinking as frequently over a year ago. Since al-anon I have not been drinking at all. I don't know the answer to that. All I know is that I am just as sick, if not sicker than him and it is because of the way I was raised. I was raised to have power struggles with people, to make mountains out of mole hills, to argue people into diong what I think is right for them, and to worry myself sick over their choices. I am just now learning there is a new way of life. I can make my own happiness. I can find myself and be a separate person from the people I love but still love them in the process. I can live and let live, let go and let God. I can trust it will all work out and see the glass half full. I can acknowledge that even though I think I know what is right or best does not mean its necessarily what God has planned right now... for me or the people around me. Anway, its progress not perfection and tonight we both made progress. That argument could have became a fight and a brawl and me packing my bags.. But instead it was just an argument and were still going to play Yahtzee together.
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
What great progress you are showing Michelle. I love reading your posts. You are really growing in this program. Arguements can be a good thing too. You both voiced your issues and you are still going to play Yahtzee. I say "Way to go!"
This is awesome Michelle! I can really relate to a lot of what you shared. I always get so much wisdom from your posts and the way you write really speaks to me. Thanks.
Have fun playing Yahtzee! (my hubby and I used to play that all the time) Games are the best! Hugs!
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It is very difficult to have a pity party when I am celebrating all the gratitude I have in my life!
It will aither work out, . . . or, . . . It will work out."
I just love your insight and your committment to the process. Thanks for your share! p.s. I once got three Yahtzees in one game. i'll never forget it! :)
Sometimes a healthy argument is ok. I see it as kinda like clearning out a cupboard, messy and I don't like it, but it has to be done to air it out and get it clean... I am not saying pick fights... I am just saying that sometimes, if they are handled correctly, they can be cleansing.
It sounds like you handled it correctly as you guys had it out and then continued to love afterward.
thanks guys. I have been busy and not able to come on as much. I read posts when I get minutes... I have been sort of wrapped in a cloud of artistic expression right now and I cannot stop. I will get on when I can. Thanks everyone for the wonderful ESH!!! The fight blew over. and I do think its necessary to communicate my thoughts at times even if it means an argument... I stay out of his program though and he best stay outta mine.. hahhhha. have a great night all. :0)
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
