The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I heard that this weekend and it really struck me as to how true it is. In and of itself, it doesn't really mean anything. But I think it gives us an opportunity to step back, quit taking it personally, and remember that our alcoholics truly are sick.
Ahhhh, awareness, then acceptance..... and now, what action? If you are the one being hurt, by words, by someone's actions, then what do we do? Run? Forgive over and over? Don't take it personal, but get out of the way.
I am in social work and I have been hearing this saying for years because of the clients we have.. I can assure you it is true in so many forms.... the adults were hurt and hurt and now the kids are hurt and hurt.. its a cycle and until people's eye become open to the self awareness to change things, nothing changes.. LET IT BEGIN WITH ME! I love that about al-anon. I am so grateful to have found al-anon because i was headed right down some pretty steep steps.
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
It has always been my experience that the people that can be: generous with warmth; open to listen; motivated by understanding and not driven by being right; and open to look for the best in others is dervied from a person that has a sense of serenity and peace. Its easier to give acceptance when you can accept yourself. It is something I work on every day. Emil
This also makes sense applied to the gay community. We are notorious for judging each other, having crappy relationship, and being overall petty and mean uneccesarily. I do think a lot of that is from wounds that never healed being the "sissy" and called names and bullied four our childhoods. Somewhat off topic but not entirely, cuz this is also the reason so many gay people turn to substance abuse.
