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I too am so sorry you are going through this, .. agreed he only needs himself to show his behind. That's just how it all goes from here. Safety first and always, I hope you have been able to get the dog and you guys are all ok.
Sending love and support, P :)
-- Edited by Pushka on Sunday 12th of February 2012 08:57:36 PM
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
well this just got worse. I have now had to involve victim services. He came home in a rage again at 3am on friday in which he virtually baited me to get mad. I chose to leave however, now he is saying i ran him over. Which is a load of crap and now he has phoned MCFD which is the ministry for children here and is telling them I'm a bad mother etc. He is verbally abusive and I have had to leave the home which we both own. I really just want this to go away. I need to get my work files out of the house and my poor daughter just wants to go home. She's afraid he's going to hurt the dog.
I am so sorry you are going through this. It would help to look into a women's domestic violence support service I think. You do not need to handle all of this by yourself, nor should you. Generally speaking, the truth usually comes out pretty quick with a substance abuser when they make ridiculous accusations.
Thank you both!! I have spoken with victiim services this morning and they have verified that his accusations will be taken with a grain of salt. My dad and I just went to get some stuff and of course he has locked me out and I had to wait for his brother in law to get there before I was allowed in. He got rude, abrasive and offensive however I now have enough stuff to keep us away until I can have him removed.
I wasn't able to get the dog but was able to get a lot of my stuff out and my daughters. I have emailed his mother to make sure I get a payment towards the mortage for Thursday, if I don't have that I will be disconnecting all utilities cable, internet and phone as it is all in my name. Victim services will callme today to refer me to where I need to go and the proper way to handle this. I feel so heartbroken for the child. I have told her that Daddy has some issues and we will not be living with him anymore and we are having a mini vacation with grandpa and grandma. My parents are extremely supportive and have made us a space in their home where we feel safe, loved and cared for. I can't wait for tonights F2F meeting.
I'll keep you all updated and am so grateful you are all here. I am strong, I am independent and I can do this.
You make sure that you are taking care of you and being easy on you. I've had some eye opening conversations with my eldest and I agree that it IS heartbreaking .. sometimes though things have to be broken in order to be put back together in a more solid way. Someone shared a story of a vase that was broken and reworked with gold and it wound up that the vase was worth more than it had been originally. It was a vase owned by monks is how the story goes.
Anyway, I see myself as that vase as well as my children and we are going to be reworked with gold and made even more precious.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
