My A fell while drinking last week and hurt himself pretty badly-stitches, IV fluids for blood loss, LOTS of pain, etc. The doctor told him he had to quit drinking. He was so miserable he said he didn't even want a drink. I was hopeful that this might be the start of something good to come out of the bad, yet had no expectations. It lasted a week. I guess he's feeling better as he was drinking last night and again by noon today. So the same old pattern continues. On the bright side, I'm amazed at how calm I am about it. I did have a moment last night where I felt like shaking him and telling him not to throw away the week he'd gone without alcohol. But I knew it would do no good. I went to my room and watched a movie. So while some things don't change (A's drinking) some things do. I know I have changed so much since coming to this board, online meetings, literature, etc. Plus lots of support from the folks here. I don't like what he's doing and I don't condone it. But I realize I am powerless over it and have to make a life for, and take care of myself. So that's what I'm doing. I know I have a long way to go. But I can see the progress that I've made. Big thanks to everyone who has helped me to come this far.