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Breakingfree


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When my 13 year old finishes her 8th grade year in early June I plan on moving to a bigger city. Away from my exAH and his family and near more jobs. I would love to go back to school and get off of aid. I have 3 part time jobs and sometimes 4 in the Summer in the seasonal small town where I live and it gets old. I have a great bible study group of women and my daughter has a great youth group and sports here.

I believe we will have more opportunities in a city, but I already feel like I do it all alone and there I will have to find the courage to really be alone. The little bit of help I get here, won't be there until I find an Al-anon group and Church family there. My 13 year old is not excited about finding a new group of friends and starting her sports season where she knows no one. I have been trying to hand this over to my Hp. Things seem to be flowing this way.

My landlord wanted to rent my place out in August and called to be sure I was leaving and I said yes. My jobs have me cut down to minimal hours and I am barely scraping by. My exAH is the worst ever with his drinking and his parents are no help either with my little one. My sponsor thinks it's a great idea.

So why am I so freaked out at times about it? From being so excited one minute to have opportunities and hope one minute to wanting to stay here because it's knowns. I need to stop being wishy washy for my employers and kids. I want to go and have a fresh start in many ways, but am scared.



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HI BREAKINGFREE

IT SOUNDS AS IF YOU ARE LIVING UP TO YOUR LOG ON NAMEsmile.

PLEASE STAY IN THE DAY AND DO NOT PROJECT. REMEMBER HP IS WITH YOU AND IF THE MOVE FEELS RIGHT IT IS RIGHT!

IT TAKES COURAGE TO CHANGE AND A MOVE IS A HUGE CHANGE. IN THE SERENITY PRAYER WE ASK HP FOR THAT COURAGE SO EVEN IF I FEEL FEAR I KNOW HP WILL SUPPLY THE COURAGE TO FINISH THE TASK.

REMEBER IN THE 11TH STEP WE PRAY FOR THE KNOWLEDGE OF GOD'S WILL AND TH POWER TO CARRY IT OUT. WE DO GET THE POWER WE NEED FROM HP

TRUST THE PROCESS STAY WITH US YOU ARE NOT ALONE.



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Pushka


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Hugs BF,

Sending lots of love and support. Trust your HP and trust your program you work a great one!!

Hugs P :)

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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
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I like how Betty put it, it does take great courage to change. I like the word courage - the images it conjures up - courage doesn't mean having no fear, it means going forward into the fray despite the fears. Think of all the friends you have yet to meet! I think the fact that you are excited and hopeful means it is a good step for you.

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Moving isn't ez in the best of circumstances.

You still have time to feel it out. I like to put it on paper, the pros and cons.

As far as landlord, I would look up your state then put landlord tenant law and find out your rights. If you decide to stay and not give written notice, what are your rights.

At this point it is your home, for your landlord to make plans is very presumptuous.

You have come a long ways, I have faith in you. Your daughter is at an age where if you move, I would not move again for awhile. I should put that differently.

I felt my kids needed stability, I wanted them to be with the same friends all their lives so I made sure we lived in the same area. They are in their mid thirties and have grown up with the same people. It helped keep their lives balanced.

It sounds like  you have good reason to start out new. Its an exciting thing too. Maybe you could encourage your kiddo by allowing her to decorate her room. My kiddo got pvc pipe and made this neat thing around her bed and hung things on it. you know like filmy material hanging.

Maybe get her a guinea pig or fish or something for her room too.

Its very cheap. I went back to school and never regretted it. That would be a wonderful thing for you to do. Now days most colleges have classes so you can be home when kiddo is.

I am very excited for you!Its an adventure. You will be so busy starting your new challenges to think about being alone. Believe me you will meet great people.

hugs,debilyn hey you do have us you know!



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I am excited and decided to stop the F.E.A.R. false evidence appearing real, in my head and realize I can make it and my kids will be just fine. I am so greatful for the support here, my home Al-anon group and my sponsor. I have a few months to prepare and have decided to not worry about anything that I don't have to handle today. Which really leaves me very little to do yet. Thanks MIP family!

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"F.E.A.R. false evidence appearing real"

Can I just say this is the BEST thing ever!? I LOVE it!! Where did you find this slogan???

Hugs P :)

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Hi BF,

Having mixed emotions is normal.

Moving has lots of possiblities for you and your children!  Strive to see the good in it.

When you get nervous, just remember it's your thoughts that are the boogy man.  Thoughts aren't reality.

When our two grown sons were going into 6th & 7th grades, we moved to a rural town.  They had never changed schools.  In no time, they had new friends, began to get active in extra curricular activities and felt right at home.  It turned out to be an excellent move.  We still live here today. 

If I had a choice to move back, I would not.

You're a well-adjusted woman.  You'll guide your children well.

Take good care, Gail



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