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Kestrel57


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I've become complacent recently working my program, I know I need to get back to working it dilligently.  An exchange with my spouse today made me realize that I'm not as far along as I thought.  Things have been going well, we're communicating nicely, we have a loving relationship. But I think I've been judging how "well" things are going by the fact he hasn't come to bed drunk, fallen out of bed, gotten up drunk, etc. Bad way to assess my progress! He still drinks, and still buys wine (his drink of choice) on an every day or every two day schedule. I was handling it okay for quite awhile now, had my serenity, accepted the powerlessness, but then today for some reason I asked him how much he was going through and he answered a bottle a night. My serenity immediately took a nose dive, I felt all the progress I made was suddenly gone.  I'm not angry with him, I'm upset with myself. I know with the help of my program I'll get back to where I was, but right now I have that sinking feelling in the pit of my stomach.



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Pushka


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Hugs,

You know you are in the right spot and know the next best thing to do. Get back up on the program horse and keep taking things one day at a time. Good awareness!! Hugs P :)

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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Debilyn


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Hey please don't be hard on you!!!! Just like they relapse they are back where they left off, the good thing for us is we are too, but it is a good place!

It's ok! Liked what Pushka said. Its so true,most paths have a few bumps, just continue on.

Hugs hugs, glad you are here! debilyn



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Mattie


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I think one thing this reveals is that you'd rather have a spouse who didn't drink so much.  That's totally understandable.  Their insanity shouldn't make us lose sight of the fact that their habits are not healthy.

But they are what they are.  You sound like you have a lot of awareness. It's good to know what we're dealing with.  Now you're reminded.  And it sounds as if you're working your program hard.  Hugs.



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Oh, how I HATE that feeling.and I , like you, was always thinking it wasn't good, but it could be a lot worse. Then I finally realized it could also be a lot better. Coming here always helps me.

Thinking of you, and hoping you find peace.

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Kestrel57


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Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement.  I know it's important to get back up and keep looking forward and you're helping me do just that.  I'm so glad I found you!



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