My husband has had an addiction to perscription pain pills for about 11 years now.  For all these years I have taken care of almost everything, the house, our kids, his business and worked my own full time job.  Last year he started to go to meetings and got clean.  He has been for a year now.  I hoped that this would make life better for our family. Instead he started to rely very heavily on a female from the rooms for support who he said was just a friend and a good support with 7 years under her belt.  When I felt like their emotional connection was starting to cross the line we began to fight a lot.  Eventually I asked him to leave which he did and two weeks later they started sleeping together which he came and admitted to me a few months later.  He said it was the biggest mistake of his life and that he was in a very bad place mentally and emotionlly and she told him everything he needed to hear. He claimed he felt manipulated at the time.  For the next 4-5 months we were spending a lot of time together and I thought we were rebuilding our relationship. Then it was back to her again.  He said he was so confused and didn't know what to do or where he belonged or with who. We have two young daughters and I could not play this game with him. It has not even been a year since he has moved out and other then the two nights a week my kids spend at his place he and this woman basically live together.  I don't feel like he has spent the last year working on himself and his issues because she has been a huge distraction from reality for him just like drugs used to be. We are getting ready to file for divorce and it just sucks that after sticking by him for all these years that this is what I get in the end. It's sad because my kids have no respect for him and what he has done.  He will have to face his own demons where his kids are concerned and now its time for me to start my healing process.