Ugh... wish I hadn't done that... - Al-Anon Family Group

atheos · Senior Member

Ugh... wish I hadn't done that...

GreenerGrass · Senior Member

Lol! This too shall pass Atheos. I'm sure your friend appreciates your kindness. Once, we had a lot of mt husbands family visiting, and his brother showed up with the flu, and within a couple of days everyone had the flu, and I was soooo irritated and just wanted everyone to leave!! But, people can't really help being sick or getting you sick. Try to get through it as graciously as you can. There is nothing worse than feeling unwelcome in someone's home.

glad lee · ~*Service Worker*~

I sooo relate to being "compulsively nice." I'm Miss Nice making all the offers, usually people-pleasing because I so desperately want people to like me, sacrificing myself because I have a tendency to feel responsible for everyone's happiness.... then later, I end up with a big, fat resentment. If I'm not careful, I end up behaving in ways that require amends. Who's to blame for my self-seeking and dishonesty?? hahaha

It's a learning experience, an opportunity to learn more about yourself, your behavior, your reactions and most importantly, your choices.

Here are just some thoughts to support you, I hope it helps ((my friend))

Kindness is loving people more than they deserve.-- Joseph Joubert

Kindness can become its own motive. We are made kind by being kind.-- Eric Hoffer

Remember there's no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.-- Scott Adams

Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not.-- Samuel Johnson

-- Edited by glad lee on Saturday 7th of January 2012 09:56:43 PM

kris10 · Senior Member

Ugh.... Im the same way and Id feel the same way a you do right now.. However since Im not in the situation I can say that its not your friends fault he has a cold.. #1 way of not spreading germs is washing your hands... Lyscol works too!!! Colds suck but not life threatning... And Id tell that friend if he gives you a cold that he'd better be the one fixing you some soup!!! Ha ha

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Can you or he afford a hotel or? I have asthma and cold virus can kill me.

I would be honest and tell my friend, oh no you are sick. Can I help you get a hotel or? I just cannot get sick and miss work!

Last time I got a virus I thought it was how I was going to die. So for over nine years now I have not had a cold or flu. I avoid it big time.

You can wear a mask, wash your hands like Kris said, Lysol is great.

I mean you could give him a choice. be ok with you wearing masks and sanitizing all the time, or get a hotel.

It's funny really as I am older and I tell ya, it is MUCH worse getting sick when ya already have enough aches and pains!

Hugs,debilyn

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