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I was looking threw papers that I had just piled up on my table... Bunch of old mail and school work from my son that I hadn't even looked at, or maybe just skimed threw... When I come across this home made thanksgiving book my son made in school... I was looking at all his little drawings he made in it... Turkeys make with his hands, ect.. The last page says "I love my mom" with a heart drawn by it........... Happy tears come to my eyes and then they quickly turn into me bawling..... This has been sitting on my table since some time after thanksgiving... I have been so caught up in all this addiction that I didn't even bother to REALLY take a look at my sons school work... I'd go threw and make sure I read all the "important stuff" (notes from teacher, ect) But I've been so caught up in all this addiction and what HE (my A) is doing or not doing or the fighting or the silince that I just kind of set aside these little important things and was only doing the basic, kindof runing threw life on auto piolet... Cook super, do kids homework, laundry, clean, give baths, feed cats, ect.... But wasn't really THERE.......
WOW!!! Talk about a big slap in the face...... One that I am thankful for!!! Hey however our HP shows us, I'm still grateful he shows us and sometimes I need a "slap in the face" if you will...... I called my son at once (he's at grandmas house tonight) and told him how amazing his little book is!!! He said thank you and he loved me...... Awww the REAL kindof love!!!! He is and always has been my #1 and will NOT get only the basic auto piolet mom from now on.
I figured I'm write this for all of you parents out there that might need a "slap in the face" if you will as well.... (it's a good slap!!!) sending lots of love to all those little ones out there because they need it!!!
That just puts everything into perspective doesn't it? I hate how the problems and fighting between my husband and I overshadow my joys in parenting. There is nothing more important than being there for my kids. And I can't be there if I'm preoccupied with my husbands problems. Thank you.
How great it is that you realize you have been on auto pilot. I was on auto pilot for 10 yrs, and missed the nuturing of my middle son, because I was so preoccupied with with my youngest son acting out and getting into trouble. I so regret that I didn't have Al-anon at the time. As I look back it was such a mistake to only focus on my one son and miss my other son's growth and successes. Please don't make that mistake. "Be Here Now" while your son is young. It goes really fast, enjoy and nurture him, it is so important especially with possibly only one parent. This realization is a blessing...run with it......
In support Oldergal
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My Mum was on autopilot for a long time. She is the most wonderful human being in the entire universe and I love her to death.... but I don't have toooo many memories of her not 'doing' something.
Take the time for him. I am so glad you got slapped (knowing you can see the funny/good side of that statement)
Great post! Thanks so much for your share and reminders. I'm getting so much from every one's responses. I love this site. Sendingyou continued support.
