The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I love these boards. I like the constructive criticism and the praise and encouragement I receive. I want to thank the members who read and respond to my rambles. I know that they are not always 100% on track but I am learning and growing one day at a time. Thank you for being patient with me and for listening to me.
Yesterday I shared a beautiful day with my AH who just got out of rehab. I did not say one negative remark. I did not ask one prying question or say anything in the respects that I am trying to control his life. I have really been making progress keeping the focus on myself and allow my AH to turn to himself to figure it out for him. I am grateful every single day to my HP for brining me to Al-Anon and for Al-Anon to bringing me close to my HP. Yesterday my husband and I laughed together, we talked for hours, we told stories, we enjoyed eachother's company and I completely owe my attitude on the whole situation to my HP and this program. I am proud of the person I am becoming. I am loving the person I am, just as I am, just as I should. I love my husband but I could never love him as much as his HP loves him.. so I can rest assure he is in good hands now. I have never felt such serenity as when I turned it over to God.
An attitude adjustment goes along way. I can now see the world as if the grass is greener on the side I'm already standing on because I've mowed my own yard and watered my own lawn.
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
I too am so thankful for this board, and the sharing. I'm thankful for the honesty and experience!
I've been able to hand over the drinking and pot to HP, because I can't control it.
I've been able to laugh and love my husband the way I did when we were dating and I didn't realize all that I was about to sign up for. It's wonderful to know that I can have a good time and enjoy him without having to constantly nag and harp on his choices.
"An attitude adjustment goes along way. I can now see the world as if the grass is greener on the side I'm already standing on because I've mowed my own yard and watered my own lawn." SO INCREDIBLY TRUE!!! HUGS!!!
Michelle, Congrats on your great progress! I'm so glad you and ah had a good day. Even shared laughs together, wow! Laughing together is one of the things I miss so much. But I'm getting better at finding things to laugh at on my own. A friend often drops his puppy off for playdates with our puppy. It is so much fun watching them play together, I often find myself laughing at their antics. Like you, I too love this forum, message board. I seriously don't know (and don't want to know) where I would be without it!
What wonderful growth and love the idea of Weed and Feed .. LOL!!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
