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me and my a r back together for real now he has cut down on his alcohol still drinks everynight just cut back on how much but still theres that changed behavior in him the other personality comes out ,the mouthy one he is trying soo hard to do right and is doing good he wants us to make it work so much as i do also we r sould mates but just that one issue is like a wedge -his drinkning he gets ill if i say anything to him about it i say well the alcohol wins agin like usual,cause i cant stand it theres no alanon meetings nowhere around here that i can get to so this is it for me,ive always gotten so much out of all of yalls esh everytime so this is good im trying to deal with him as best i can ,he wants to get married im scared to death of marrying an alcoholic,what would my future look like? ha,i told him we will but lets wait or give it at least 6 mths to an year,a year for sure,he dont beleive in any recovery his dad which has been deceasied for 28 yrs stopped his drinking he said at age 56 he is 48 and says he plans on quitting when he is 56 he is 48 so that would be 8 more yrs ,i cant deal with it that long i done good for a way long time with keeping it out of my life but my love for him was there still and i as in me ran out and found him agin after id left him for 4 mths and we hadnt been together for 8 mths so now here i am back with him agin and now its thicker than before like he has his claws and hooks in me for life and aint gonna let me go i just hope everything works out for the better this time,need yu esh plz ,,,hugs and more hugs lookingup



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(((((looking up)))))...No meeting? go to the AFG.ORG site and double check and while you're there look up the literature such as One Day At A Time in Al-Anon and Courage to Change and Hope for Today and more.  I'm sure there are places where meetings might not exist; I've hear that before just like Pineapple, a member of MIP, who has her own experience on how she has done it without meetings nearby.

Pineapple you on?   Good work Lookingup.  (((((hugs))))) smile



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Hi, well  you are thinking wisely! Good for you.

As far as him quitting or whatever, he is going to do whatever. There is no waiting around for you to see if he does. What a waste of all those years. He may stop and he may not.

I hope you will look for your own happiness.

hugs,debilyn



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I hope you are able to make it to meetings and read some Al-anon literature. It sounds like you are in a bit of a spiral and I hope you can find serenity and make good clear decisions for yourself. I am sending you love and support on your journey.

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