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My daughter is a serious addict and has very little waking time during the days and she has 3 small children, 1 4yr and 2 5yr olds. She had no electric and heat for several weeks, Because it was getting so cold I called DFS. According to the worker, I was not alone. My daughter and her children were missing in action for about 2 1/2 week. They are finally home again and DFS is investingating the siuation. The social worker assigned to case ended up being my neighbor across the street. The worker knows who I am and respects my way of life. I feel this time DFS may help these children and maybe my dughter at the same time. I believe my HP brought me my own special DFS worker.
Also the childrend father has files for custody over the children. This would not be a good option either since he ahs alwasys been in and out of jail. he is also a drug addict.
I pray my HP will work the DFS worker will bring about a good resolve for these children.
I just wanted to tell you that I'm thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
In support, Hugs p :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Not sure if you obtaining custody is something you are in for, but from my experience working with foster kids and with DFS for years....The maternal grandmothers usually wind up being the most common relative caregivers in these types of situations. That is the most likely thing to happen if the father is how you described.
If the kids get taken into custody by DFS, both parents will be put on a case plan which will likely include drug tests. If they cannot do that, then they will not get the kids back. The kids would likely wind up with you in the meanwhile or for the long-while. Anyhow, you did the right thing calling DFS. It can only get better from there.
Iwant to thank everyone for their posts. I will not be able to take my grandchildren in if it comes to that. I currently live with my son, duaghter-in-law and their 2 children. My addict daughter has 7 total children but only 3 with her. She just keeps having more. We also take care of my addicts daughters 10 year old son. That's a full house as is. Other members of my family and the father's extended family may be able to take in the children if they were split up. I think anything may be better then the circumstances they are living in currently.
