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I know that some of us feel trapped by our situation especially if the primary provider is the A in our lives. I have been thinking that I need to prepare for the future and maybe think about a career path. I have a 4 year degree and was a stock broker working in institutional investing for a few years before my son was born. Since then I have a been a stay at home mom and now a homeschooling mom. My son is in 7th grade and I know that he will become more independent with school and will possibly be able to drive himself to school(if he goes to High School) or drive himself to tennis tournaments, etc. In other words, I may find myself with a bit of flexibility in my schedule in about 3 years or so.
How many of you work or are thinking of following a new career path? What certifications are worth the investment? I'm having trouble finding what I really want to be doing in the future. For the past few years (not including this last 18 months) I have been a yoga instructor and before that I also taught step aerobics. I got a lot of satisfaction from teaching but there's only so many classes your body can teach in a week and the pay sucks. Most instructors teach because they love it, not for the money. Anyway, as much as I would love to go back to teaching yoga I realize that I need to find a path. I have thought about getting certified to become a paralegal. I have experience with wills, trusts, estates, and investments so that might be a good path for me. But, I also know that many paralegals are overworked and underpaid and under-appreciated. There's also no room for advancement unless you go to law school, which I have no interest in at all.
So, how many of you have changed careers? Have you been forced to change your path due to life's curveballs and circumstances or do you just like challenges and change? Just curious.
factory worker, computer programmer, door to door sales, retail sales, retail manager, painter, landscaper, computer consultant, data processing manager, diary farm hand, tobacco farmer, systems analyst, more consulting and now i clean houses with my wife
I think it's useful for all of us to think about how to support ourselves, because the potential to be independent gives us more choices in life.
I teach at a university and what I see is that a lot of people are coming back to school (and running up debt) to get credentials, hoping the credentials will get them a job. But the country is pretty much over-credentialed. What employers seem to want more is experience and proven reliability, which of course you basically get by starting at the bottom and working up. The good part is that they pay you as you get the training (by working your way up the ladder), instead of you going into debt paying for a credential that might not even lead to a job. I see so many of our students doing this, and at the end they have a huge debt load and many of them -- in fact most of them -- end up going into jobs unrelated to their credential. So those thousands of dollars bought them nothing but slavery to their bills.
The money is still in the financial industry, even though it's in dire straits. (Most other professions are in dire straits too right now.) If you have experience in finance, that might be something to build on. The path might not be straightforward, but you might look at what entry-level jobs there are that are somewhat related. I have a friend who started as the lowest receptionist at the bank and now runs a whole section of their financial side. She had no training, but she was smart, reliable, and looked for opportunities as she went on. My experience suggests that that's a surer way to a solid career than a credential. (Of course this doesn't apply to those who know they want a certain job, e.g. nursing, which can only be landed with a certain credential. But there are more jobs out there that don't need a formal credential than those that do.)
I chose to be a therapist of course because I wanted to help people. If I get burned out from one population I can change. Thus far, I have worked with several different populations which include the chronically mentally ill, mentally retarded/developmentally disabled, juvenile delinquents, and now foster children. I have thought about working in a rehab but not sure about that step. There is always administration to consider also...(that's where the money is).
I did a search on yahoo and paralegal's are in demand right now as is nursing. Do a search online and see what fields are growing and what grabs ya. It is something I have been doing too. Enjoy the journey, it is exciting to me!
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