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Very Very Tired


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I had an HP moment: one of those times when I really look at myself in the mirror and see what lies deep beneath my heart.

I have had a few posts lately about setting my "no driving the kids" boundary with my AH. I thought I was doing it to protect the kids. And I am.  

But, there is something deeper. A more honest motivation that I knew was there--I just hadn't seen it yet.

I'm choosing to take over the driving because I need to know I can take care of my family no matter what happens in my life. I need to know that regardless of what happens to my AH, I can survive and keep a life going for myself and our children.  I need to know that I can be independent and make my own choices. I need to know that I can be a single parent, if the need ever arises. 

That's the deep stuff that I wasn't able to see until  now.  This isn't about my AH or our kids. This is about me. 



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Jerry F


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I can use this share VVT...its about responsibility and willingness.  Yep I can use it...thanks.   (((hugs))) smile



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GailMichelle


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Very Very Tired wrote:

This is about me. 

 I find this to be very true with me also. 

Thanks for bringing it to everyone's attention.  smile



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abbyal


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Atta girl .  Louise



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rrib


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I always get a funny shivery feeling when having a spiritual awakening. Hope you did too! <smiling>



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rehprof


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V.V.T. --

I had to make the choice to separate from my AH and am now divorcing. I  work a high stress professional job (60 hours/week) -- I have 2 boys, live on just my income, I've taken over all the bills, the mortgage, everything...I was scared to death at first...

It is stressful and exhausting, and there are days I want to be rescued...but at the same time it is oddly empowering to know I can do this myself.

 



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Pushka


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Hugs VVT,

Thank you for your share.

Hugs P :)

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Breakingfree


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I love when you wake up and look in the mirror and more fully see yourself with love. I am sending you love and support! Keep up the great job my friend!

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It is such a good feeling when I can sense the nearness of my HP.  Thanks for sharing your experience with Him today.

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pinkchip


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Rock on VVT - I remember that moment too of thinking "Hrm...I might just wind up okay." What I read is you are seeing some of the first rays of sunlight peeking in and it's due to your hard work.

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nyc018


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This is an empowering share...sounds like you are definitely on the right track, for your kids and for you. It is a great release when you realize you'll be fine and your well-being isn't dependent on someone else. Thanks for the share and sending support.

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danni


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So insightful. Thanks for giving me something else to think about today.

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