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I have been split from my son's father for a year and half now, it was my choice. Now he's dating someone and it's serious. All my grieve and sense of loss is now flooding in. All I can think about is them, I even had dreams about them. I'm trying to stay with my breath and redirect my mind to be in the moment, but it seems to be a minute-to-minute battle.
It doesn't help that I see them everywhere I go.
My main slogan that I grasp to right now is LIVE and LET LIVE.
I must admit, my heart is so broken. And I hope this will pass sooner than later.
Broken dreams are broken dreams and there is nothing wrong with going through the grief process for relationships that are broken dreams. It will get easier!! Progress not perfection. :)
Hugs, P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
My heart goes out to you and what you are experiencing is something I project about a lot. And like you, Live and Let Live has been a powerful tool for me over the last months of my roller coaster. Although I haven't read it yet, I just ordered Getting Them Sober vol 4, Separation and Healing...because I am just splitting with my AH and am full of anxiety even though I think it is what we need. I can let you know if it is good. I am hoping it arrives today!!! Like Pushka says, it is tough to let go of that dream. I know I am still holding on, but from past experiences, I know one day I will be ready to let go. Time is like that...and it will get easier
What a great slogan to hang on to. When difficult times arise, sometimes it helps me to use easy does it as well. You are walking through some tuff stuff. We are here for you in love and support. {{{{hugs}}}}
The Beattles song comes to mind for me: Let it be. When I find myself in times of trouble... let it be.... Keep coming, keep posting here and going to meetings :) HUGS!
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Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
