My A and I went yesterday morning to our son's psychologist appt.  We had a family exercise she wanted to do with us this session.  It was a real eye opener.  My A got to hear from her that the state of mom and dad individually and the state of our relationship will impact our son more than anything else will.  

We had to answer questions about each person in our family.  When she asked about some of the favorite things my A and I do together I didn't have an answer and neither did he.   That made him think.  He was visibly moved by the appointment.

After that, we went to a wedding we were invited to.  It was for two people in program that had a long hard road and have finally made it to the altar.  My A went into rehab with this man three years ago and the man has been dedicated to program as is his new wife in Al-anon. 

After that he opened his own bank account, went to an AA meeting, put a shared calendar on our iphones so the burden of organizing for our family isn't on my shoulders anymore, and made the appt for his vasectomy.   Wow.

He was quite open with the psychologist in sharing changes he wants to make and she explained to him in better terms than I can why it is important to tell me how he feels about me.  He told me later on for the first time in a couple of years that I look nice when I got ready for the wedding.

Then he goes on to start a rather controversial conversation today and actually communicates in a healthy manner, respecting that we have different thoughts.

I don't know what tomorrow will bring, or next week, but yesterday and today have been really nice.  I am grateful to HP for that and to my A.