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Ruby


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I have a sponsor who is there for me when she is not involved in her own stuff, she is going through a divorce which is very difficult for her, she doesn't have a sponsor, so I find myself acting as her sponsor.  We have become good friends, but I would really like a sponsor who has more time for me, I would like to do my fourth step, I've the books and have done some of it, I mentioned it to her once and she suggested I write my life story, I didn't follow through with it and she never asked me about it again.  I don't want to hurt her feeling, but I really want to do the 4th step.  Thank you for your help!  Ruby



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bud


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What I've done is find someone to be my "fourth step sponsor"; someone I went to to focus on completing my fourth step. From what I hear, many people do the fourth step differently. What worked for me was to use the instructions per the big book. I also found it helpful to attend step meetings.

I hope this helps.

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Jerry F


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It's okay to change sponsors or have two or more, or to fire one and hire another.  It really is okay.  When it is your sanity and serenity you take responsiblility for management.   (((hugs))) smile



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Pushka


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I agree with the other posters and it's something I learned last night that sometimes sponsors are just temporary for many different reasons. Good luck and keep working on your program :) Hugs :)

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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Ruby


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Thanks! That helped a great deal!



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Thank you from me also.
I've been wondering the same thing. My sponsor has been traveling a lot this summer, and isn't quick to return my calls. I like her, but had considered finding a new sponsor. I like the possibility of choosing a step 4 only sponsor. I didn't realize that was OK.

Thanks for the question, and answers.
This board is a wonderful place. My f2f meetings are good but they don't leave much time for individual questions.

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