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Karma AND working my program


I mentioned a couple weeks back we had some major drama (of her own doing) with this crazy neighbor teen, in regards to the kittens that were around. 

At first I felt bad about the situation now I really don't.  We didn't do anything wrong, the poor mama kitty was never fed so she started coming here for food by digging in our trash which led to us feeding her.  Personally, I'm not up to picking up trash every morning and this fixed our trash issue.  She decided she liked us better .. lol .. hmm .. wonder why?  Food .. no food? 

When she had the kittens she had them in a back shed right off of our property.  We never saw the cats for the first 4 weeks of life.  Our landlady was the who found them in HER shed.  It's an open shed because it was wrecked during a storm.  Anyway, she asked us to keep an eye on them and so on.  At this point they had been classified strays by all.  No one came to us and said they were looking for kittens and they were never hidden. 

The teen next door is looney, she came over and had a huge meltdown and the venom she had going on really just showed her youth and her ignorance .. lol.  The biggest reason I decided not to go head to head with her was because pretty much she scared my youngest and my eldest at that point was unaware what was going on.  Thank goodness for that part.  I had this terrible thought to about both my husband and I having to wear SCRAM braceletts at the same time and all I could think was no one leagal issue at a time .. lol. I figured you cannot nail jello to a tree and this kid was out of control.  confuse

Already I've seen one cat who is just in awful shape that is of course "her" cat well take the poor thing to the vet, shelter where ever,  and put him down he's a hot mess.  I mean it's obvious he is ill. We did exchange some words over pet care and being a responsible owner.  She did not like what I had to say. 

Long story short after she jiggled all over her little jello self, she ran to the landlords and got a RUDE awakening .. LOL!  He was over last night talking with my husband.  We heard how she cornered him at the mall railing about the kittens and property line how dare I and he was like ummm .. yah as long as they live there that's their property .. LOL.  Explained that yes they found the kittens in the shed.  Explained further that it would probably be a good idea NOT to have cats wander if I'm made my feelings known.  He told my husband that she was a major nut job. I guess her mother is done having the cats inside big shock there .. LOL .. her mom doesn't like cats IN the house.   I'm actually surprised it's been this long.  It bothers me that they aren't even 8 weeks old yet, however I remind myself not my problem.  They never came in our house again my cats couldn't have coped with it as they are both 15 years old and it would have been stressful.  Well all of those homes she had for these kittens are not appearing (she railed at me over this point, they all had homes how dare I) and now she's stuck trying to figure out what to do with them.  They could wander around IF they are spayed I'm not backing down on that one.  It would be an ugly incest mess, as the mom, a girl kitty and two boys ..ugh .. the poor kittens to come out of that .. yikes. 

I think the funniest thing is that we never had said a word about it so here this teen is running thinking someone is going to take her agenda not realizing she was totally out of line.  AND nothing was ever said so pretty much she tattled on herself.  Was told she was out of line and I didn't have to make a point of it thank you Jesus!!  Specifically I never said a word, I had let it go and given it to God.  I knew my intension and it was a good one.  I figured God already knows that part. 

 I only hope she had a good learning experience from it.  I worried at first that I had done something wrong and decided that yah I might have handled some stuff differently in the beginning.  In the past I would have argued how I was right and really it's cats what's the big deal.  She did me a favor because I didn't have to find a way to get them all spayed and nuetuered and now it's on HER to deal with.  The only part I that really bothered me was how it bothered the kids.  I felt badly for them.  My son especially as he was the one who was most upset by the whole fiasco. 

It also felt good that no one could point the finger at me and say, that's the crazy behaved one because I was very neutral about the whole thing. It wasn't my drama woo hoo!!  I love that feeling it was totally not on me!!!  I was not the drama mama of the situation yippeeee!! aww Maybe I've finally grown up a little, or at least a little more.  :)

P :)

 



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Hey there Pushka :) Great job lady! Keep on working it! It looks good on you :) HUGS!

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