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ive met a guy 2 weeks ago didnt know him from adam,we went out and then he called me everyday 2x a day and then we went out or spent the day together the next weekend,now im falling for him,i think im crazy,i didnt expect that to happpen so quick scares me i dont think his feelings for me r the same he says he dont know what he wants,need all the esh i can get here before i fall into something i may regret later he dont drink or do drugs seems to be pretty healthy and has a 11 y/o son he puts 1st in his life,a very much a gentlaman he was raised in a healthy home with a good raising,i come from a alholic home where its been chaos all my life prtty much,but i really do like this guy and dont know if i should let him know that ,i dont want to come on too strongly and run him off,i just feel out of sorts here.plz help me...hugs chinup
One step at a time it's only been 2 weeks there is no need to rush. GAK .. I sound like I'm giving advice and that's not where i"m coming from .. lol .. I just always laugh because I have a girlfriend who used to totally laugh at me when I would first meet someone. She would say for goodness sakes the guy is going to show up for a date and be freaking out when you are in your wedding dress. :)
I was in such a hurry and I look back now. I think I was really afraid the guy was going to reject me because after all who would really want to be with me if they really really knew me. It's a date, don't show up at the door in the wedding dress. :)
Have fun, get your relax on and get to know this person. 2 weeks trust me you don't know squat about him not really. Now if you were coming up saying hey this guy has been in my life on and off as a friend for over 3 years then ok it's time to say you probably have a good idea who he is. Enjoy it, bask in the glow of young attraction and mystery of getting to know someone and let them get to know you too. :)
Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy the first kiss only happens once. P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I know that place where I end up wondering what the hell happened because I didn't at first get the answers to the questions...who am I? Who are you? what do I really want?
I've got a near fatal "I can...because I can" attitude. Just because I am who I am and want what I want it's going to be okay. Forget the past...that wasn't real.
Why hasn't Speilberg called me to do a picture of my life? He does good with fiction doesn't he?
Just a question Chinup? If I may? Have you got a sponsor yet? There are more questions but then we all do what we feel compulsed to do. The definition of the disease is a compulsion of the mind and an allergy of the body. I had to get rid of my compulsions. ((((hugs))))
thank yall so much for that gr8t huge esh i needed that,u know coming from a dysfuctional home u dont or i dont really know at times especialy when i meet a new male freind on what to do,my parents just let us do whatever so we came up al on our own so i was never taught the proper way or what to do as far as meeting a having or getting to know a boy.hugs hugs and more hugs...chinup
Chinup, I can only ask what Jerry asked, have you been going to meetings and finding a sponsor? It is the way to get better from our compulsions and codependency. Its ok to just date and relax. Have fun. I hope you are going to meetings. take care of you
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Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
