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My AH is Deep in his Disease


My AH's best friend and his wife came over tonight to visit. He told me that since I left my AH 4 months ago, his drinking has gotten much worse and that he had to tell my AH that he can no longer be around him while he continues to binge with his drinking. It was almost like hearing his friend tell me that the cancer has gotten worse and my AH continues to refuse chemotherapy to save his life. I am so sad right now. I keep thinking he'll hit bottom soon, but my HP has other plans for him right now. I just wish I knew what the future holds for us. Only my HP knows that answer. I'm praying tonight that I can continue to find courage and serenity.



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Hugs GE,

Sending support your way, this has to really be hard for you to hear about from his friends.

In my thoughts and prayers, P :)

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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo



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Hi,

I really relate to your post my ABF is missing phone off his disease is on the attack again after 9 months sober.  I think it hurts even more know I understand it is a disease I wish I could help but I carnt I just have to hand him over.  Thank you for posting this I was getting depressed I have to remember I am powerless I have to take responsibility for me change the things I can.  Me sitting here is not going to make him get better get back to the rooms.  I am attending extra meetings at the moment.  I am going to make afew calls today also.  Thanks for reminding me to take care of myelf at this difficult time, hope you do too.

 

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Hi I can relate to your post Tracy alcholism it sure is a cunning baffling disease and I find it hard to watch someone dear to you wasting away and there is nothing we can do but look after ourselves I am a work in progress still learning, I do come on this boards and do a lots of reading your shares are helping me a lot thank u all


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I've been where you are many times with my ex-AH.

It's such a relief to not see any guilt reflected in your post.  It seems you know to place him in his HP's hands.

I'm praying right along with you that you stay strong, sane and will find serenity.

Take good care, Gail



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Dear Green Eyes, you post touches me deeply.  I wish I were ther to hug you.  I am crying so hard I can hardly type right now.

I really can't even think of a pain any worse than watching a loved one on a destructive path and feeling totally helpless to help them.  I am feeling this myself. 

The only thing I know is to hold tight to our faith, our love, and to each other.

My heart is with you.

Very sincerely, Otie



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Thanks, everyone, for your ES&H. It really is touching and helps me to know that I am not the only one who is so deeply affected by this disease called alcoholism.



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