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Lately throughout my day I have noticed that my mind starts going to deep dark places. I start to worry about things related to my AW in recovery, family, future, past, etc. Essentially all of these worries have already been handed over to my HP through working the steps (currently on step 9). What I have noticed is towards the end of the day, often when I am alone or not very busy, my mind starts to worry about things. I was hoping I could get some advice on what some of you here at MIP do when you find yourself in such a situation. How do you remind yourself to let your HP take over or to leave it in your HP's hands and out of your own. Thanks.
No matter what, my mind will revert to worrying, and there is no permanent off switch. I have to keep turning off worry and letting go, over and over. Some days go better than others. I don't think we can't expect to hand over worries and never have them come back, because it is human nature to worry, to some degree. Since we are co-dependents we might be in the habit of worrying to an extreme degree. Habits are hard to break, be patient with yourself.
You can't just turn things over once, it has to be on-going. It might happen easily for some, but for most it is hard. So don't worry about the fact that you can't stop worrying!
Old habits are hard to break. I have actively been using the alanon program for approx. 2 years. Sometimes without consiously knowing, I start the worrying, obsessing, the "what ifs". When I realize what I am doing I stop myself and remind myself, that I don't want to do that anymore. I think you are doing well as you recognize now when you are doing it. Be patience with yourself. We don't learn these behaviors overnight and it takes time to reverse them.
When I begin to worry, I come on here or I call my alanon contact. She helps me get out of my head. If I don't do those things, I will continue to sit and stew and feel worse. Those are the tools I use right now to get through. If I can't get ahold of my friend, I go to my books, I read, I write and I try to sit with the pain of the worry. I find my own part in what is worrying me. Keep coming ;)
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Lately throughout my day I have noticed that my mind starts going to deep dark places. I start to worry about things related to my AW in recovery, family, future, past, etc. Essentially all of these worries have already been handed over to my HP through working the steps (currently on step 9). What I have noticed is towards the end of the day, often when I am alone or not very busy, my mind starts to worry about things. I was hoping I could get some advice on what some of you here at MIP do when you find yourself in such a situation. How do you remind yourself to let your HP take over or to leave it in your HP's hands and out of your own. Thanks.
Surf,
I try and read something that puts me in touch with my HP (God), maybe it's alanon lit, maybe it's the bible it's something that makes me feel good. I've also bolted out the door to a meeting during those times as well. Affirmations is another one. Listening to music is another one, I get stupid with it too .. LOL .. that's just me, thank goodness I live in the country because I don't worry about the neighbors or finding myself on YouTube. :)
Sending love and support, P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Totally relate When I start worrying and projecting it means whatever I have turned over to my HP I have taken back to try and control. I do this a lot sometimes So I pray and give it back to my HP You know the saying I am sure.... If you are going to worry why pray? If you are going to pray why worry? Blessings
When I am in the worry mode I know I am also depressed. I do something to lift my spirits. I used to use food, but that added too much weight....LOL. A good book, a funny movie even if it is a repeat, comedy channel, even disney stuff. I watch kids...they always make me smile. I get out and walk the malls... or go to the beach in the summer.
You have received many helpful suggestions. I would like to add my favorites. They are: Making alanon phone calls and telling on myself, writing in my journal, attending meetings, reading alanon literature.
They are all sure fire antidotes to my worry, and projections
