The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I am new to this whole life style. My husband has just started an IOP program and he is sober now for over 30 days. I am proud of him but i feel like i am left in the dust. I am still trying to see where i belong and what i do to fix me. I have been reading alot about codependency and slowly realizing that is me, because of his drinking. I have the road to recovery book but i dont understand how to do the steps. All alone and dont know what or where to go.
Hugs and you are so in the right place. Please if you can attend a f 2 f meeting. You are not alone. There are many lovely wide people on the boards here. The best thing is you can find hope and recovery. Please keep coming back.
Sending love and support, p ;)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Posting here was a great start for me. I, myself, haven't made it to a face-to-face meeting yet but I'm trying to get there. I've done lots and lots of reading on here. This board is very welcoming, loving and supportive.
You are not alone!
((hugs))
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~Kat
Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats. ~Voltaire
Hi there and welcome here :) This website is a great first stop on your road to recovery. It is in my "tool box" of tools to help me recover and get better. Alanon family groups are world wide, you can find a meeting in your area. Try to go to at least 6 meetings in a row and when you go, LISTEN, share when you can, ask questions after the meeting, get phone numbers and call people who you connect with. Come here and ask questions, post your own stories on what you are doing to better yourself. While your husband is working his recovery, you need to work on yours. Early recovery can be very hard, it is good that you came here and reached out. Here are some books that were recommended to me and I read them every day: Getting them sober...this book has such great information that you can apply to your life little by little. The book One day at a time in Alanon helps me EVERY DAY multiple times a day. As well as Courage to Change. I also read the Co-dependency books by Melanie Beattie, and the book Waking the Tiger for my childhood trauma... Keep coming, this spiritual program works when we work it, read back on old posts, search the terms you want to know about in the search box at the top of the forum. Take care of you!
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-youfoundme
Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
Getting to a f2f meeting and a temporary sponsor will make all the difference. In your meeting you will receive a phone list of people to call, a temp sponsor and be able to feel not alone in an instant after hearing others share.
I love the forum, and by all means keep coming back here, but there is nothing that replaces a f2f meeting.
You have received some great advice here. I would also say to get rid of your full name on your status page. Find a new moniker. It is easier to be honest when you can also be anonymous.
Al-Anon exists only to help you. Take advantage of it.