"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Need a hug

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

((((((((HUG)))))))) smile

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs hon, you are going to be just fine!! :)

xeno59 · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((((((((((( Youfoundme ))))))))))))))))))

Aww I relate so much of what you shared !
I am still 3 yrs into the program very afraid of my step 4-5 work.... who would ever want to be my friend after hearing what I have to say. But I gotta trust my HP in ALL my affairs and trust he will take care of me
Prayers your way
Blessings

Hoot Nanny · ~*Service Worker*~

youfoundme: consider yourself HUGGED! I am nervous sometimes w/ my sponsor because I am so afraid that I will say something that will make her see that I am crazy or evil in some ways! I have to work on my TRUST issues, too! I hope you have much success in dealing w/ your sponsor. I have been blessed w/mine!

Kathleen

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks all :) I needed that! I hope it goes well and I learn to trust and learn to be vulnerable...

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

YFM,

Consider yourself being {{{{{{{{{{{squeezed tight}}}}}}}}}}}

I have found that through sponsoring people over the years that there are strong similarities in sponsee 5th steps. Child and spousal abuse are pretty common in the 5th step. So too is harming the alcoholics we love. We are only as sick as our secrets. So, on your journey to pop the question, put it in Gods hands and step 1. Leave the results up to Him.

I love you girl! Good Luck!

Tommye

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you Tommye! :) It is crazy how unique we feel and then learn we are not. And how good it is to know others in progress of healing :)

canadianguy · ~*Service Worker*~

I think what I miss most about not getting to my F2F meetings very regularly anymore are the hugs!!

Here is a cyber (((((hug))))) for you, and try not to put too much in the way of expectations on the outcome, re: asking this person to sponsor you. I can pretty much guarantee you that you won't be 'judged', but they may or may not be available to take on a sponsorship role with you at this time....

You are learning, growing, and reaching out.... you are a shining example of yet another 'miracle in progress'...

Take care

Tom

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Maybe you could ask her if she has been a sponsor before? So you can get an idea what she thinks of being one.

It is hard to be rejected. In my experience I learned to remember it usually has nothing to do with me.

I hope it goes well for you. I will be thinking of you! love deb

ELEKTRAWMN · Senior Member

(((hugs)))) !!!!

hawaiilover · Senior Member

Sending you big hugs to last for a couple of days. blankstare Hawaii

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you all!!!

flopadopilus · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi youfoundme, I relate to your childhood and not wanting to be vulnerable is a huge wall to deconstruct, but you can do it and much more working your program. I am so glad you are reaching out, keep up the good work!!! (((((HUGS))))) Sending you love and support!

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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"