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canadianguy


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A number of post-ers ask questions from the perspective of an ACOA, and I must humbly admit that I have very little knowledge around ACOA-specific issues.  I asked the question of Toby Rice Drews, and here is her response, that I thought I would pass along, for those looking at good reading material in this area...  I had heard that books by Claudia Black were also very good, but Toby is much more in tune with the field....

 

"hi Tom, I believe the best book for ACOA issues is the classic "Adult Children of Alcoholics" by Janet Woititz"

 

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Tom



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I read this as my ex AH was/is from a horribly abusive,dysfunctional family. It sure did open  my eyes as to his view of life and what made him do what he did.

Good book. Thank you Tom. debilyn



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I'll second that recommendation! smile

I read Woititz's first book over 20 years ago when I started my ACoA exploration.  Now her 3 ACoA classics have been issued in a compilation volume called ACoA Sourcebook which is available in paperback.



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I read it as well. It's extremely helpful in identifying what role you played in the alcoholic home you grew up in (there are specific roles that the author identifies as consistent in all alcoholic homes). Once you have identified what your role was, many, many things in your adult life fall into place and you get a much better understanding of why you do things and then, how you can make changes.

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Since I grew up in this, I am thinking I better get ordering and reading this book. Thanks for the info.

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Excellent! Janet W.'s books are to ACoA what Melody Beattie's books are to CoDA (I highly recommend them because those of us who live with alcoholism, whether as children or adults, tend to become codependents without even realizing it). And ten of the absolute best dollars I ever spent was for a daily reader called Daily Affirmations for Adult Children of Alcoholics by Rokelle Lerner.

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