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Jadie


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Hi everyone, I'm Jadie from the UK

I've been in Al-Anon a couple of years but have moved to a rural area where there are no meetings.

I try to work the programme in my life, to the best of my ability, day at a time.

My A is advanced in their disease, does not live with me (a boundary I need for my serenity).

I don't know how they are still living & breathing to be truthful and every day I'm waiting on the other shoe to drop

Sometimes I feel like screaming if you drop dead of this disease it won't be a day too soon.....but I won't (I hope)......thanks to Al-anon

Glad to have found this online board

Jadie smile



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Pushka


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Welcome aboard Jadie, this board has been a lifeline for me. Hugs :)

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Welcome, Jadie.  There are online meetings at this site too.  Pull up a chair! smile



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Welcome here :) Glad you found us. This board is a wonderful place and as Mattie said there are online chat meetings here too :) Keep coming!

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Jadie:

Welcome! You are in the right place. Just know that you are not alone. I can relate to your situation. Hang in there. There are countless of resources available here. Click above for books and other online meetings.

Sending you lots of hugs.

Hawaii

 

 



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Debilyn


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Glad you are here. I bet you love living in the country!

My situation is lots like yours. Honestly I do not know how my A is still living. I feel so sad for him as he is so miserable.

Besides alcohol is is a heroin addict, had a brain surgery, has oral cancer, I mean it is amazing. Has been zapped back two times that I know of. He is fifty nine! He has taken twenty or MORE hydrocodone in two days!Plus every other drug he gets his hands on.

I am glad you found us as it really is a great place when we cannot get to meetings, or even if we can!

Hope to see you post again. love,debilyn



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Jadie


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What a lovely welcome smile

Thank you

(((((Jadie)))))



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Jade,

I too am so glad you are here.  Another friend of mine on the board is from the UK and has the same difficulty as you.  I wanted to suggest since there are no rural alanon meetings, I bet there are open AA meetings.  They really saved my life when I could not make it to Alanon. 

Please keep coming back.  There is a lot of wisdom on this board.  I look forward to hearing more from you.

Best,

Tommye



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Hello to all. I am oldgraduate and have just joined. I have a long history with a drinker, my husband. He will say he's not an alcoholic, but uses alcohol in a nonconstructive way. I grew up believing all drinking was wrong, he grew up seeing his family drink every day. We have had issues in our marriage of 35 years that have caused anger and resentment and mistrust of each other. When I started really asserting myself and demanding to be heard and respected, he drank more. It ended up that his anger was taken out on me, and at that point I had to take action. I got back into counseling, stopped covering for him and let the kids and family in on the situation, and put my foot down. He is in counseling, things are great and he is only taking a drink here and there, but never around me. He says he has gotten over his anger, forgiven old hurts, but I am cautiously optimistic. And I find myself fading back into old patterns of not asserting my own individuality and desires. I know I am affected by living with this for so many years and need to learn to let go and see his behavior as what it is, rather than take it as a personal rejection of me and something I need to control. I told my counselor I would go to an al anon meeting; actually went years ago and read the Courage to Change book every day, but I need more and going to meetings in town is hard to do. I hope to find insight and support here, and knowledge. I am eager to learn.

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Hi Old Graduate

Welcome to MIP and as a returning alanon member  I found that  Face to Face alanon meetings truly saved my life.  They broke my isolation, forced me to interact in a positive fashion while I was there,  Instilled hope within my soul as I listened to other members share their ESH. 

If you cannot attend Face to face meetings we have on-line meetings here 2xs a day They are very powerful as well.

It sounds as if you are ready to focus  on yourself and have the "Courage to Change"

Many may not see your individual post here as you responded to the end of another member's topic .   Next timethat you share, it would be best to "Start a New Topic" so others can respond to you

There is hope and help available  Keep coming back



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Jadie


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Hi Oldgraduate welcome from me too.

Please act on Hotrods suggestion and re-post as a new topic, let others give you the same warm welcome & support I've received.

((((Jadie))))



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