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can someone tell me how to get a sponsor. I am feeling so defeated right now. I just feel so sick, with a whirlwind of emotions. I swear I feel like my head is going to explode. right now, I don't even know why I am so freaking angry with my AH, I mean I generally know, but nothing inparticular. I swear, I just hate him, and yesterday I loved him, and the day before that, (hated him).
I know it isn't about him, I really need help. so sorry for the rant. Just trying to get some more info.
Hi Rachel, It is clear that you have been dealing with alcoholism and are suffering from the terrible effects that living with this disease causes.
Face to face meetings, Living One Day at a Time, Focusing on Yourself, Meetings, Steps, slogans, and a sponsor work together to help us recover.
In order to select a sponser, it is important to attend face to face meetings and listen to the shares of each member. When you hear a member share that you feel you can connect with and who has recovery that you admire ---then go up to her at the end of the meeting and ask her if she could be your sponsor.
Remember if she says no it is not personnel She may have too many sponsees to take on another, or she may have other issues that stop her from commiting. If that is the case repeat the above actions until you find one who accepts.
Groups have telephone lists and sometimes a person indicates "Available to sponsor" You could checck that out too.
I remember going to the rooms with all of the feelings and you just described swirling in my head. Swinging from extremes from love to complete apathy. I had no balance and thought I was going crazy. Thank God I walked into the doors of Alanon.
When I picked a sponsor I looked for someone that had what I wanted: peace, serenity, happiness, joy, and balance. I wanted to have someone who worked a good program. The person I chose always shared how they work the steps and what tools of the program they were using today to flow with any circumstance of life. That was so encouraging. Also, this person had the same AH family situation similar to mine which is what I wanted. I was ready to get started and very willing to do everything she suggested me to do.
If people say no, there are two sayings I love "rejection is God's protection" and "God is never late". I was told no six times by alanon members. I was hurt, I thought I was so crazy alanon couldn't handle me. But I was asking anyone, randomly picking people not because they worked a good program but because I was in so much pain, I really needed to get started. Pain is the touchstone of all spiritual progress. So, what led me to my sponsor is the same person I had seen in the room years many years before. I got a lot of relief from going to meetings, but no recovery because I did not get a sponsor, was too afraid. I put my stalking and tracking skills to work in a beneficial way and went to five meetings a week to try to find her. I finally did and popped the question if she would be my temporary sponsor. She has been my temporary sponsor for many years now and I am so glad for it.
Aloha Rachel...Hot Rod and Tommyc offer powerful proven experience and I do identify with that. What I have to share is what I had to learn to do before even considering getting a sponsor and that was keeping myself still, quiet, able to listen with my ears and eyes and without that inner crazy person yaking over the fellowship. I had to learn how to get to "peace" so that I could see a clear picture. My mind, and body, and spirit and emotions were so consumed by the disease metaphorically like the systems of tornadoes that RLC's Alabama have just gone thru. When I could reach peace by having my HP remove the fear within me (just ask, HP's there and will do that) then I could go on to doing what Hot Rod and Tommyc and the others suggest from their experiences ...not opinions and then I learned how to ask and accept what came from the asking..."Can you please help me?", the yes or the no. I was taught, "If you get a "no" continue on with the next member and then the next until you get a "yes" and then do the next indicated thing...work the steps and their experiences in recovery. Listen, Learn, Practice.
Feeling sick is temporary when you're asking for help. Keep coming back and thanks for the courage to share. (((((hugs)))))
