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My dil and gd have returned to Japan. It was really hard saying goodbye to them on Easter Sunday. They were with us for a month with my son there for the last 10 days of their stay. They all returned together which I was happy about.
I decided since we no longer had a house full of people we would take a trip to our home in Bethany Beach for the weekend. Me, hubby and my BFF. My older A son called me this morning and asked if we were headed to the beach this weekend. I just told him last evening that was our plan. He sounded down and I can only speculate that was his real reason for calling. I asked if everything was ok and he answered me with yes but the tone in his voice may have been saying something else. I accepted his answer of yes and didn't mention how I didn't think he sounded good. Normally, I would say something like no it's not ok...what is wrong? I really don't want to know what and if anything is wrong. In the past I thought I needed to know so that I could do whatever I could to make it better for him so he wouldn't drink. We all know how that works, right?
I really still have a hard time accepting that the A thinks that everything is about them and what is happening in their life....active or not. I am going to enjoy my weekend and put the tone of his voice out of my mind.
He will either drink or he won't! Not my problem! I need some fun and relaxation in my life and I intend on getting some this weekend....(fun and relaxation, that is)
Is that your granddaughter in the photo? She's DARLING! Good work on the phone call with your son. You're right, he will drink or he wont, you can't make it better for him. It sounds like you have a lovely weekend planned. Have fun!
yep...that's my granddaughter. That was taken a few weeks ago in my yard. I am so greatful to have been able to spend that time with her. Now when we do video chats she will know who I am.
You accepted what he said.