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member922


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Well I have spoken a couple times to the (ex?) abf on the telephone.

He wants to see me today, which means a big "I miss you" hug and falling into bed.

I told him no.  That it doesn't solve anything and will probably just make things worse. 

It never worked before and will just make us fall back into the same patterns.

Gotta stick to my guns this time.  It's time for me to wake up and realize that nothing will be the same as long as smoke is involved.

That's it for me today.  One day at a time...



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pinkchip


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It is good that you have more objectivity on this now and can see the patterns that have been going on. You just quoted a program tool and may not have known it. You described "playing the tape forward." Good job.

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member922


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Thanks pinkchip.

We did talk a bit, but of course he said that I am criticizing his lifestyle. I'm not, just can't live with it. My choice. His choice.

Not much of a talk, but we are both unhappy. It needs to be over and I think he can see that. Oh well, whatever. I have better things to do than dwell on this every minute.

Have a great weekend and thanks for the boost.

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