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Anyone have some slogans/Al-anon sayings that have stuck or helped them. I am trying to write up a bunch of them and put in a couple handy places to remind me to stay on track. Any and all are welcome.
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God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
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Don't React How Important Is It When In Doubt Don't Let Go Let God Think Easy Does It No Is A Complete Sentence Feel Good About Saying No Listen And Learn Fake It Till You Make It Let me list "Don't React " again......my favorite......It's saved my sanity and serenity 999 times and counting.
Go to the search bar and type in "slogans" and you will find these and many more along with other quotes in a topic at the top of the page started by Kitty in 2008. HUGS, RLC
How's about the definition of insanity..."Doing the same things over and over again expecting different results".
Or another way..."If I keep doing what I've always done I'll keep getting what I've always gotten."
"If it ain't broke...don't fix it".
G.O.D. - Good Orderly Direction
Listen and Learn...take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth. You have TWO ears and ONE mouth for a reason - use the ears twice as often as you use the mouth.
When you're confused about what you should do and where you should be, stand very still for a while and look down at your feet...that will tell you where you are at; next look directly above you and ask, "Where do you want me?" then listen with both of your ears.
The alcoholic is a sick person because they drink too much, what is my excuse. (enablers question).
"Acting as if" will not work when you're trying to play GOD.
There is only one thing you need to change about yourself in Al-Anon... E V E R Y T H I N G.
Steps One thru Three condensed. "I can't - God can - I'll let Him"
The twelve steps condensed. Trust God - Clean House - Help Others.
When at first you don't succeed...call your sponsor.
Next time you're feeling smart and think you know the solution to the alcoholic's problem...Say out loud "I think you should..." and then listen quietly. Most often you can hear God laugh.
ohh, great topic! copying-n-pasting to print out to put in my journal! my fave is "No Is A Complete Sentence"! i can't think of any that aren't already here, just wanted to say it's a great topic :)
Borrowed from the movie Wargames - The only winning move is, not to play.
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
These were the other ones I picked up that were particularly helpful to me, I work a very intensive "self focus" program though, where I try and disregard the other person entirely when taking inventories
I didn't cause it
I can't cure it
and I most definately can't control it
Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror
What is my part?
What is the decision I made based on self that placed me in a position to be hurt?
I actually use the "fourth step grid" (tenth step) pretty frequently
Resentment
cause
affects my
what is my part
and then for me personally, I say to myself "Alcoholic insanity is contagious" (lets me know when I 'engage' i am engaging in the insanity, not the solution), that helps me detach
My favorite from AlAnon JADE (do not) justify argue defend or explain Fake it til you make it Say what you mean without saying it mean HALT (are you) hungry, angry, lonely, tired ... I add in or anything else that may negatively influence reaction or decisions Let it begin with me
A saying that is NOT from AlAnon but has helped me to positively change many areas of my life
Every decision I make stems from what I think I am and represents the value I place upon myself.
