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vols2001


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We live in different states and my other siblings and I were not included in therapy sessions during her two weeks of rehab.  I tried to talk to my brother-in-law about my sister's strange behaviors (not paying attention to her kids, ages 4 and 3, always arguing and angry at me and our other sister) and declining physical appearance, but he said she was the perfect wife and perfect mother and everything was great.   Do I need to attend sessions with my sister or will a regular Al-Anon group in my area help?? 



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GailMichelle


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Hi,

Welcome to the MIP board.  Glad you found us.

I've begun to attend meetings as of late.  I was soooooooooooooo, extremely reluctant to do so for soooooooooooooo long.

However, I find them to be helpful each time I go.  I was told to go to at least 6 before determining if they were for me.  Actually,  I would extend that suggestion to trying out different meeting places if the first one isn't satisfactory after the 6 visits.

I've found 2 meeting places, each meet once a week.  The chemistry of each group is unique.  One group is more serious, with an ocassional burst of laugther, while the other group is very light & humorous in addressing serious issues.  I get somethng from each group, even though I enjoy the laugther a lot!

You can tell the ones who have been attending for a while, they usually have smiles on their faces, even the ones that are living with an active alcoholic.



-- Edited by GailMichelle on Tuesday 29th of March 2011 12:22:00 PM

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vols2001


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Thanks for the response!  I am definitely looking forward to smiling soon...:)  I have been so worried about her for so long and we've not been part of the process so it feels very strange but I am so thankful she did get some help.  Just taking it one day at a time.



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Debilyn


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Being any part of Al Anon will help you AND your sister! We learn how to approach them, how to not react to their behavior.

When we learn not to enable, we learn to detach, that their disease is their own, we feel somuch better!

She is not her disease. BUT her disease is not our disease. She is the only one who can deal with it. So all we do is love them, be their sis, mom, dad, brother friend, loved one!

It is so freeing believe me!

Glad you made it to MIP! love,debilyn



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Sounds like b i l has his head firmly planed in Denial .. Al-Anon will help you alot and you might suggest sis's husb attend as well ,the addict alcoholic is not the only one who has to change ,we do too . . Louise



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