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As I was sitting here, my mom came in & told me that my dad--they are divorced & have been for over 35 years--but anyhow, my dad is reluctant to get surgery because he is taking pain pills & feels better--I think he needs the surgery, though.
He had been in painon Tuesday morning & ended up in an ambulance off to the hospital--not feeling the pain now makes him feel that he doesn't need the surgery. Man, am I frustrated & again, powerless!
If I could, I would see him but miles do come between us & I can't do what I "want" to. I am sure that I sound pretty pathetic.
I wasn't really done with what I was saying earlier because my mom interrupted what I was posting on here. I can't seem to catch a break. Do I make any sense right now? I really don't know.
Anyone have any thoughts or words of wisdom for me at this point? I really would appreciate anything that you can give me on either of my posts.
Yeah, I am going to have to turn all this over to my HP. I am willing right now to do so.
I am hanging in there to see what you might all say. I can't check until tomorrow as I am running out of time here at the library.
I'm so sorry that your dad is ill. My dad, age 83, lives 750 miles away and just had open heart surgery. I do know what it is like to be miles away from a dear loved one when they are in need of surgery! My heart goes out to you.
What I did was embrace the Serenity Prayer. I accepted that I could not be there with him; I accepted that what happens is out of my control; I accepted that he was in his HP's hands.
I found the courage to keep busy and not entertain bad thoughts about what could happen.
Also, my dad is very stubborn. He almost waited too late per surgeon. He had 4 arteries blocked and the surgeon does not know how he was still alive. My dad waited to get medical attention until he could barely walk.
Keep us posted. You and your dad are in my prayers. Gail
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
gailmichelle: thanks for what you said: I am so grateful that my dad didn't have to get surgery--he is home & doing so much better--I am still praying! He went home yesterday as my step-mom informed me!
on Tuesday morning & ended up in an ambulance off to the hospital--not feeling the pain now makes him feel that he doesn't need the surgery. Man, am I frustrated & again, powerless!