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It's happening again....


My husband as an alcoholic. He died a year ago. My 24 yr old daughter has become my husband. I don't think I can go through this again.



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Welcome PetPurr

I am so sorry for the loss of your husband to this terrible disease.  That you daughter is now showing signs of alcoholism is hard and I  do understand your pain

You can not do this alone  I uge you to find face to face alanon meetings in your community  You can do that by going to

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

You are dealing WITH A  DISEASE OVER WHICH WE HAVE NO CONTROL- YOU DID NOT CAUSE IT CANNOT CONTROL IT AND CANNOT CURE IT  YOU CAN FIND HELP FOR YOURSELF BY BREAKING THE ISOLATION- ATTENDING MEETINGS, COMING HERE TO CHAT ROOM AND POSTING ON THE BOARD  

YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND THERE IS HOPE '

PLEASE KEEP COMING BACK



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hotrod wrote:

Welcome PetPurr

I am so sorry for the loss of your husband to this terrible disease.  That you daughter is now showing signs of alcoholism is hard and I  do understand your pain

You can not do this alone  I uge you to find face to face alanon meetings in your community  You can do that by going to

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

You are dealing WITH A  DISEASE OVER WHICH WE HAVE NO CONTROL- YOU DID NOT CAUSE IT CANNOT CONTROL IT AND CANNOT CURE IT  YOU CAN FIND HELP FOR YOURSELF BY BREAKING THE ISOLATION- ATTENDING MEETINGS, COMING HERE TO CHAT ROOM AND POSTING ON THE BOARD  

YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND THERE IS HOPE '

PLEASE KEEP COMING BACK

Thank you Betty!

I have been to Al Anon before - years ago.  It saved me. I was married to my husband for 30 years. Quite a history, you can imagine.  The last 5 years he did not drink very much but he had given up on life. He dropped dead next to me with an abdominal aneurysm. Of course I am still mourning his loss.

My daughter moved back in with me 2 months ago. We have always been very close. I love her more than anything in the world. She's all I have. I knew she was depressed but I had no idea that she would sit in her room every nite and drink by herself. Her life as portrayed to me the past 4 years has been a big lie.

I just don't know if I have the strength to go through all of this again.

 




 



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Hi PeP
I honesty do hear you  We have nearly the exact same history  Look at my profile. 

I urge you to try to findthe energy to at least come here, attend the on line meetings and visit the chat room.  Post when you are able. 

We are powerless over this dreadful disease but we need to regain our peace, courage nd health  Al anon can help you do that  Please reconsider.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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THE HIGHEST FORM OF WISDOM IS KINDNESS

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You know hotrod, when I first walked into an Alanon meeting with my daughter as an  infant years ago, the first thing that hit me was that I was not alone. I will never forget that relief of knowing I was not alone.

I am so glad to be here. I just read dizbee's post.

This is my first step and I will continue to come here.

Thank you.

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Hello and welcome ,please find Al-Anon meetings for yourself you need support this is truly too much to handle on your own . You will find people who have been where your at and will share thier stories of recovery with you .
This is a disease and like it or not we have a part in the mess , the good news is it dosent have to run your life .  I am sorry for your loss last year and understand your fears regarding your daughter . Please find help for yourself you cannot change other people but there is alot you can do to create change for yourself .   Louise



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