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I went to a f2f meeting on Saturday. I was nervous never having been to any kind of meeting like that before in my life. Everyone was very friendly and they didn't push which I was worried they would. It was so good to meet people who have had the same kinds of experiences. I am going to go back next week. It really helped me get my mind clear and helped reinforce my decisions with boundaries.
A bf has been working his program as well. He has been sober for 5 days. A bf has apologized for his behavior. I told him I would see him only if he is sober. We have plans to see each other Friday night for dinner to celebrate his birthday without alcohol.
I told A bf he has to stay at his place and although he doesn't like being there and would rather be with me, he respects my decision. My kids and I have settled into a nice routine and things are calm again on our home front. I feel so much better! I have been doing the things I missed while A bf was out of control like reading and talking to my girlfriends in the evenings. Life feels much more free.
I know that A bf has a long road ahead of him but I am cautiously optomistic. Maybe I am naive? Thank you all so much for your words of encouragement and comfort.
That's good news. I'm glad you enjoyed your first f2f meeting. You have only been in the program 7 days and you are taking your life back. It does my heart good to see a "Miracle In Progress".......... and it only gets better......... one step at a time.
I am trying to remember one day at a time and to focus on what I can control and learn to let go of what I cannot, giving those things over to HP. That is a hard lesson, I think, and I will probably have to keep re-learning it over and over!
Nothing happens overnight, we have to keep putting one foot in front of another. Learning new ways and applying them takes practice, practice, practice. I spent lots of that practice "un-learning" all my old ways that hadn't been working for me.
Work the program like you eat and elephant....one bite at a time.
Wonderful share filled with great progress in setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. So glad you took that leap of faith to walk into a meeting for the first time. Keep us posted on your continued success and always know you are welcome.
We alll must keep coming back 