hi, everyone.  I just wanted to share my good news with you guys.  I separated from my husband almost a month ago when we got in a fight while he was drunk and I ended up calling the cops because of his violent behavior.  i have realized my part in acting as the provoker and enabler and have just tried to fix me.  he has been desparately trying to fix "us" and i finally agreed to see a counselor with him on monday.  the session was a disaster with lots of angry words and confrontations and accusations.  even though i lost my cool during the session, i have been working my program and felt okay that the marriage seemed to be over.  The next day I released all of my anger and resentment and gave it to God and really just let him go and set him free.  The day after that he sent me a very sincere and sweet text saying that he still loved me and had hope for us.  We talked in a very mature way and he finally agreed that we both need to work on ourselves and who knows what the future holds.  I was just so shocked and even though he hasn't said he's starting a program, I am letting him make his own decisions and be responsible for himself.  It feels great and I am so grateful that I found this program and all of the wonderful people and supporters.  i know this is not the end of the road but the beginning of a new life for me and hopefully for my husband also.  so thank you all and blessings to all my al-anon angels!