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He said he hit bottom...


I said he could come home after almost two weeks. He lived out on the street. He stayed at shelters. He is clean and Sober. He has to do 90 meeting in 90 days. I am praying for the best. My boundaries are in place. We decided to work on ourselves and our relationship. Every one thinks I am nuts. I don't have much support.



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Hello Suave,

All decisions are your own and only you know what you have to do. Nobody can walk in our shoes. Everyone should look at their own life and stay out of others.

Well your in the right place and we will support you. We have shared the same experiences. When it comes to the dealing of living with an Alcoholic, this is the place to discuss it. Its best not to discuss this issue with close relatives or friends. Unless they are in the program, they cannot understand the disease of alcoholism. Then it gives them no room to judge or criticize.

Keep coming back Suave, get the support you need in Alanon, its here for you.

Keep praying.

Luv, Bettina

-- Edited by Bettina on Wednesday 12th of January 2011 04:10:08 PM

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I sure don't think you're nuts Suave.... If you both hold up your respective ends to the bargain, you'll both be soooo much better off.... Good for you in establishing boundaries....

In times like this, it is sometimes beneficial to look for support in those people who DO understand - i.e. members of this board, Al-Anon, etc., and not so much with outsiders....  Even though they "may" mean well, people from the outside just don't have the same view of the world as those of us who are living in similar circumstances....

Take care
Tom

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I want to wish you two the best of luck

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Find meetings for yourself quick and you will have all the support you need . AA will take care of him , let us take care of you . Once settled in our program  regardless of what is going on good or bad your never alone again , unless of course you choose to be .   Louise

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I used to simply say, AH has a disease. I would not leave anyone because they are sick. Plus I meant my vows.

You sound good. I am happy for you giving this your all. Sometimes we need to do that to be sure we did our best. Plus you will have some good time with your A.

love,debilyn

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Thanks for all your responses. I haven't been to a face to face meeting but I plan to. THanks again for the support.

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