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ok,i need to talk agin about my a,ive avoided him for weeks,not answering his calls and not calling him,but i broke down tonite and called himjust to check onhim,to c if he was doing ok,knowing that he would be drunk,everynite of the week if i just waited till in the mornin and called him i would have caught him sober but i couldnt wait he talked we talked and i could tell he was hurt by what he said when i told him i wished id called him a few days ago while he was in he said he could tell i didnt want to talk to him and for me to go do whatever,but he may call me in mornin,all i really want is to be freinds with himand talk every now and then,but i dont know if he will do that he willl eventually be wanting to come c me and spend a few nites and back to the old ways agin ,his drinking and bein a idiot,i told him that we were diff. he drank and i didnt and thats a huge diff. to me i need to detach from him with love and tell him and be up front with him with what i want with my life.this hurts if i only had a few healthy or good freinds here or even a male ive been talking to some singles on this single site,they r of my faith and that helpsbut this one man can bring on the tears in me ,which is my a,he will be sober in the mornin and maycall me and be wanting to know why i cut him off,i wont know what to say to him except i cant handle the alcoholism and him being tanked up everyday somehow,i hope yall can understand all this if it makes eny sense i dont know but im gonna do some heavy praying tonite and read my scriptures,cause im sooo scared of being alone and w/o friends,and having nowhere togo and no family,im very depressed right now and been doing alot of shopping trying to i guess get over it,thanx for listening to all my stuff,i love u all so very much and soo happpy that im back here and starting back in my meetings here,thanx i do need all yur esh i can get.
I understand how much it hurts to watch someone I care about in active alcoholism. I wanted to be able to maintain a friendship with my exah for a long time but it has not been possible in my situation. The pain does get easier to accept and let go of. Asking my HP for help in removing the grief and asking for help in understanding what the next best step for myself is has always helped. I hope you find some peace tonight and have a much better day tomorrow.
(((((Pattyann))))) just a suggestion? Alongside your Bible add a couple of daily Al-Anon readers...One Day At A Time in Al-Anon, Courage to Change, Hope for Today are the ones which are part of my reading. Give it a try and see how it comes out for you. Consider the face to face meeting rooms of the Fellowship (hotline number for Al-Anon is in the white pages of your local telephone book) for meeting others who know exactly how your shoes fit because we have worn them also. If what you've done hasn't helped...try something different.
ok,i need to talk agin about my a,ive avoided him for weeks,not answering his calls and not calling him,but i broke down tonite and called himjust to check onhim,to c if he was doing ok,knowing that he would be drunk,everynite of the week if i just waited till in the mornin and called him i would have caught him sober but i couldnt wait he talked we talked and i could tell he was hurt by what he said when i told him i wished id called him a few days ago while he was in he said he could tell i didnt want to talk to him and for me to go do whatever,but he may call me in mornin,all i really want is to be freinds with himand talk every now and then,but i dont know if he will do that he willl eventually be wanting to come c me and spend a few nites and back to the old ways agin ,his drinking and bein a idiot,i told him that we were diff. he drank and i didnt and thats a huge diff. to me i need to detach from him with love and tell him and be up front with him with what i want with my life.this hurts if i only had a few healthy or good freinds here or even a male ive been talking to some singles on this single site,they r of my faith and that helpsbut this one man can bring on the tears in me ,which is my a,he will be sober in the mornin and maycall me and be wanting to know why i cut him off,i wont know what to say to him except i cant handle the alcoholism and him being tanked up everyday somehow,i hope yall can understand all this if it makes eny sense i dont know but im gonna do some heavy praying tonite and read my scriptures,cause im sooo scared of being alone and w/o friends,and having nowhere togo and no family,im very depressed right now and been doing alot of shopping trying to i guess get over it,thanx for listening to all my stuff,i love u all so very much and soo happpy that im back here and starting back in my meetings here,thanx i do need all yur esh i can get.
