Decided to leave - Al-Anon Family Group

anewyear · Member

Decided to leave

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Hon I promise, it is hard, BUT in a little bit, a sense of peace will remind you of how life can be. I know I forgot what it was like not to have the disease eating at me.

I was amazed by how resiliant I was.

May I tell you, I napped a lot. This takes so much out of us to make this huge step. I made myself sip water, ginger ale, got ginger ale caps, multi enzymes too. My gut always takes it all.

Please be so so kind to you. And he is still there. Remembering one day at a time helps, we have no idea what is coming.

When we take control, we will feel better.

I have no regrets for not going back. none. It was done. I knew it was done.

I hope you come back. so very much. debilyn@dishmail.net anytime.

huggen you, and you find hugs from others too. oops advice, maybe canadian guy won't see that...(c:

Its ok to cry where ever you are, you have a broken heart. let people know that. They will understand.

love......

Sweet Stanley · ~*Service Worker*~

It is so sad of all this disease can strip from us. The hardest part of leaving, is you don't WANT to. Sometimes the disease just gives us no choice or it would leave two casulties to this disease instead of just the alcoholic. You need to do whatever makes YOU happy. I know you don't feel very happy now, but in time, and recovery, you will find peace and serenity in your life again. Be gentle with yourself. Peace.

clep · Senior Member

Welcome Anewyear,

We each have our own breaking point and limitations. We each need to follow our own path of what works for us.

I wish you nothing but the best at this very sad and difficult time for you. How is your own recovery program going?

Blessings

Sincerely · Senior Member

Bless your heart Anewyear!

Your posting was like looking in a mirror for me.

I have been in your shoes many a times. It is hard no matter if we stay or leave.

Looking back, I've always fell for the manipulation and reunited.

There was so much potential, so much good that we could have shared. So much love wasted.

I hate the disease, but I love the man and I will always love him.

My delima today is, can I live with an active A? I dunno if I can.

Sincerely,

Angeliki · Member

I am struggling with this decision right now and I know exactly how you feel... there is so much that I will lose. It feels as if everything would be perfect if he would just stop drinking. Well not perfect, because nobody or nothing is, but we would be happy together.

But honestly, I am leaning towards leaving. I just don't think I will be a good mother, daughter, sister, friend or wife if I stay.

Hugs to you.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

I hope you find a meeting to drive to on your way out. There will be a chair waiting
for you and literature and people to talk to who share the experience of what you
are going thru now. Go to the white pages of a local telephone book anywhere
you stop at and look for the hotline phone number for Al-Anon and call that number
for information on when and where we meet outside of MIP and come sit, listen and
learn. Bring an open mind cause you will find help. You are not alone. Anywhere
you go there is an Al-Anon Family Group with a membership within reach and willing
to help.

Keep coming back (((((hugs))))) smile

anewyear · Member

Thanks for the well-wishes all! Would have loved to stopped off at a meeting but I had a car full of pets and kids and a long drive ahead. However, I've found quite a few meetings in the area that I will be attending this week.

I won't deny it. It hurts. I know that I hurt my husband but I need to protect my kids and hopefully, shock him into getting help. Not to mention, it's time to get me back on track.

I'm looking forward to working the program as I embark on this next phase of my life.

sunflowergirl · ~*Service Worker*~

Wishing you well... alanon has changed my life. Take care of you!

living_with_my_a · Veteran Member

ty for sharing.

It is hard to leave.

I am awaiting my renter's assisatnce and plan to leave, my a when I get it.

Hearing these stories of leaving the a gives me strength.

Carol

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